Eros


Confidence is essentially the way you display that you know what you are doing with women. If a woman sees a confident man, she is going to assume that you know what you are doing. If she sees the same man, who looks nervous, fidgets a lot and generally looks out of place, she will think this guy doesn’t have a clue what to do in his environment.

This goes back to primitive days, where a woman would need a man to protect her in any situation, which in this case is wherever she sees you. She is going to need protection as any number of strangers will usually be around her and it is always possible that a threat will arise against her. For example, if she sees you in a club and you look like you don’t know what you’re doing, you’re not going to be able to protect her from creepy guys who could come hit on her. She is not going to be attracted to this, which means you will probably end up going home alone to jack off, while a more attractive, confident guy is at home getting lucky with this very same woman.

So, now that we’ve established what confidence is, how can we gain confidence and how can we best display it? Well, I’m going to save how to show confidence for another article, but I’ll focus on gaining confidence in this one. If you feel like you’re low on confidence, the single easiest way to improve this is to actually know what you are doing. It’s amazing how much confidence you will have once you actually know what’s going on in situations, because you will have the confidence in yourself to deal with these situations. The easiest way to improve confidence is to get yourself into these situations. For example, if you don’t look confident in clubs, the easiest way to improve this is to approach everyone, male and female and act the way you would imagine the club owner would. You gotta own the entire place, make people wonder about you and be as social as possible.

If people see you talking to everyone, they will wonder “Who is this guy?”, “Does he really know all of these people?”, “Is he the club owner?”, “When is he coming over to talk to me?”. If you do this, you will immediately have more confidence from knowing that you have the tools to approach anyone, anytime and speak to them and certainly attract women. It doesn’t even matter what you are saying or what impression people have of you initially, you could be sparking up interest and then killing it later on, as long as you initially gain that knowledge of what to do.

Another way to gain confidence is to sort out your inner game. If you know you’ve dealt with a lot of rejection in the past, you need to get it into your head that rejection is not rejection, it is learning. If you don’t succeed, you learn. What a lot of people don’t realize is that not being successful is actually more beneficial to your development than getting a girl. When you are getting girls, you will still learn but not to the same degree. The advantage of not getting girls is that this is the time where your personality, confidence and technique will improve the most and can be changed the most.

Nothing ventured, nothing gained.

If this sort of mindset is undertaken, you will have a much more positive approach to not only life, but to your inner game and development. If you are not confident with something, the best thing is to get out there and do it.

If you have the discipline to work on things, you will get to where you want to be.

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Approaching Women - Confidence & Body Language - Part 2

Kevin Sinclair


We all need self confidence in order to succeed in life. Without self confidence we will be unable to face life’s challenges with equanimity. With it we will be able to face them with courage.

The dilemma we are faced with, however, is how to gain self confidence when we lack it in the first place? The key to genuine self confidence is to experience success. This is not as difficult to do as you might think. Many people set themselves up to be discouraged by making it hard to succeed. You can make it easy to succeed by breaking down your larger goals into smaller ones that you can more easily achieve. Make sure that you enjoy each small achievement and your self confidence will increase.

Self image is another important concept of self confidence. If you have a poor self image, your self talk will probably be negative. If you are constantly criticizing yourself and you feel like you are never good enough, you are making it very difficult (if not impossible) to succeed. A low self image is often the by-product of the messages we received as children but it can also be the consequence of the devastating blows we can receive as adults such as divorce, job loss or business failure. We have to learn from our mistakes, however we don’t want to get stuck in a cycle of self blame as it can be a slippery slope to despair and depression. As motivational speaker and author Tony Robbins says: “The past does not equal the future.” Look forward, not backwards and begin to work towards a brighter future.

People also affect our self confidence both positively or negatively. The simple decision to spend time with friends and family members who are positive and supportive and to avoid spending much time with those who are negative will lead to increased self confidence.

The way we respond to feedback is another important factor which will influence our level of self confidence. While it is certainly true that we need to see ourselves as inherently worthy, we need to avoid over-confidence or arrogance. We are all unique individuals who have something special to offer the world. This understanding will help us to develop the sort of positive beliefs, values and thinking that will strengthen our self confidence so that we can move forward successfully in life. However, all criticism is the result of negativity. Some criticism is very valuable. Be willing to listen to criticism, pay attention to information you can use to improve as a person and throw away the rest. Your ability to respond maturely to feedback will help you become the best person you can be. Likewise, your ability to discern unwarranted criticism and disregard it will keep your self confidence intact.

The way you speak to yourself is also very important. Positive self talk will give you the confidence and belief in yourself to step up to the challenges and opportunities of life and undertake them with courage and excellence. Negative internal dialogue, on the other hand, will keep you from even trying. Be willing to monitor your thoughts and actively choose to think positively about yourself and your abilities.

Your self image is intimately tied to your destiny. Most people let their minds run amuck, unaware that their thoughts and feelings about themselves are actually writing the story of their lives. We have to guard against thoughts of failure and inadequacy. If we aim high and believe that we are capable of achieving our goals we will have set ourselves on the pathway to success. The power of a positive vision cannot be underestimated on this journey. Where do you want to be in five or ten years from now? Write down your vision and turn it into goals.

It is easy to get into the bad habit of thinking negatively. To overcome this habit you will need to make a concerted effort to focus on your positive traits. Keep a note of your strengths. What sort of compliments do people tend to give you? What would you like to improve about yourself? Take charge of these areas and make a plan. Taking action will automatically shore up your self confidence. If you make a habit of thinking and acting confidently (no matter how you feel) and limit your contact with people who criticize you or belittle your dreams, you will become a far more self confident and successful person.

By applying these strategies and taking responsibility for your life, you will find that you will become a naturally self confident person. Furthermore, it will be a genuine and deep self confidence that can stand firm under the storms of life.

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Why is it that some people seem to be naturally more extroverted than others? Those who seem to relish the lime light and speak out with confidence and ease, tend to appear more comfortable with themselves, and radiate towards other much more easily. Some might say that it takes all sorts, that it’s important to have a variety of personality types, that the quiet introverts have their place. And whilst that’s true, if you’re an introvert who has been struggling with your low level of confidence, hypnotherapy may be able to help.

Whether you need to have the confidence to be more assertive at work, or the confidence to speak up and say the one thing that you should have said a long time ago, hypnotherapy could be the way forward for you. You may wish for more confidence in one specific area, or in all areas of your life.

Hypnotherapy is an application of hypnosis for therapeutic purposes. Anyone can be hypnotised if they are able to concentrate, use their imagination and have the will and want to do it. It’s a very simple and relaxing process. When you are in a trance state you focus so much on the hypnotherapist’s voice, that your mind can delete (if it wants to) all other sounds or distractions that are normally within your awareness.

Using hypnotherapy to improve confidence is especially effective as it allows the changes to be made whilst in a deep state of relaxation, something which those suffering from stress and worry, have little chance of achieving! Whilst you are in this wonderfully relaxed daydream, your hypnotherapist will fill your subconscious mind with positive messages of confidence, visualisation of scenarios in which you will act with confidence and certainty and powerful anchors to a confident state. This means that your hypnotherapist will ask you to remember a time in the past when you were feeling confident, and as you remember that time your hypnotherapist will instruct you to squeeze your right hand into a fist, or some other simple physical gesture. This act of remembering a confident time from the past whilst making the physical gesture will be repeated several times, until the simple act of squeezing your hand into a fist evokes the confident feeling. This means that you can set off your powerful feeling of confidence at any time you require them.

Hypnotherapy is also extremely effective at remove unwanted negative emotions from the past, which could be the one thing standing between you and your new found confidence.

Using hypnotherapy to improve your levels of confidence could have a very positive impact on your life. If you take a moment now to consider all of the things you could achieve if you were more confident what would your life be like? Perhaps having more confidence would have made you apply for that promotion at work. If you were more confident would you still work for someone else or look at setting up your own business? Maybe you’d travel to the places you’ve never been but always dreamed of going to, or perhaps you’d have the confidence to join a dating agency and meet your perfect partner. Now just consider this for a moment, do you really want to get to the end of your days and wish you’d achieved so much more? Take the time now to invest in yourself and create the changes in your confidence with hypnotherapy, and change your life.

Raymond


Here are some essential ideas and suggestions to build teenagers self confidence.

First and foremost, just be yourself. If you follow these steps you will become a happier and wealthier teenager. You will have real friends who will always be there for you when you need them. You will have more teenagers self confidence than other teenagers have. People will get to know the real you, some may like you and some may dislike you, but you will always know that the ones who like you genuinely like you for who you are and they will always be loyal to you. You as the teenager with a lot of self confidence will attract more people want to be your friend.

Teenagers clothing. Stop wearing the same thing as everyone else, and wear clothes which are comfortable and make you feel good. Step up from the ordinary teenagers’ crowd and start to build more teenagers self confidence by wearing the right clothing at the right occasions.

Try not to follow others people idea or trends. Try to identify the friends around you. Mix up and communicate with those people who are more expert in your field. Exchange ideas with them and receive the valuable ideas and suggestions from them. During the process, the teenagers self confidence in you will be greatly increase.

Entertainment also can be a great tool to build teenagers self confidence. Listening to inspirational music or watching a movie that you enjoy the most. When you feeling down or something just not going well on that particular day, spend your valuable time listening to music, unwind and recharge yourself to face the reality world again.

Give your opinion confidently. If there is an argument don’t just side with the most popular person. Say what you actually believe. People will respect you more. Bring out your guts to present your ideas to the crowd. Make eye contact with the people you are talking to. Let them feels your unlimited teenagers self confidence in you.   

Do not tolerate yourself with the questions or problems that you faced. If you are in class don’t be afraid to answer a question because you are afraid of looking like an idiot. That is not other easy ways of learning unless we learn from our mistakes since we are teenagers and make asking question as part of our habits.

Body posture plays an important role to build teenagers self confidence. Don’t look at the ground when you’re walking. Walk faster and confidently no matter where you go. Live up your true teenagers potentials!

Your teenagers self confidence can greatly increase beyond your expectations by following these simple steps.

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It helps to determine whether you have healthy self esteem level or low self esteem level. Healthy self esteem will make you good and only good people can think others are also good people. Self esteem assessment requires answers to various questions like how you feel when you commit any mistake, what do you think when you look at the mirror, what you will do when you make some commitments.

It is normal for any human being to make mistakes. But blaming others for your mistake or simply denying the error will indicate that you are not a self esteemed person. But to admit the fault as it is will definitely increase your self esteem and you can also learn a lesson from your mistake.

Self esteem assessment is again important because we live in a society that gives more importance to external beauty and glamour. But most of the people do not have perfect beauty. So we require a lot of self assessment to accept things which we can not change. This will help in developing self esteem.

We face a lot of problems in our daily lives. But dealing with any problems peacefully without blaming others will increase your self esteem. A detailed self esteem assessment is necessary here to develop a positive thinking for facing any problem. The assessment will also help to understand that any thing wrong or right does not come from others’ activities but you will be responsible for your problems.

Accepting commitments is a symbol of healthy self esteem. If you break up your commitment often then it is a sign of low self esteem. If some one passes a negative statement about you then you should not feel badly or fight with the opposite party. Just try to analyze whether there is any thing true in their statement or they simply blame you. You must make your own judgment and should have strong self esteem to hear any negative statements about you.

Self esteem assessments are required to determine your level of self esteem. If your self confidence level is poor then you need some others to guide you in even a simple issue. Self esteem assessment also helps to analyze your relationship problems. Often relationship problems particularly divorce and family break ups happen due to lack of self esteem.

Self esteem assessment is essential because poor self esteem will often lead to several problems. Low self esteem quality people will lack leadership qualities and they will have the fear of failing in their effort. The assessment will thus provide practice to increase the self esteem level..