Archive for November, 2008

Self Confidence: Eight Little Words That Will Pick Up Your Confidence!

Sara Healy


After a rather difficult day during a hectic week, I decided to have a “comfort” evening. For me, this means crawling into my oldest most comfortable pajamas, fixing a favorite meal, and watching a well- loved movie. My choice this time was Bridget Jones’s Diary as it always makes me laugh and I think Colin Firth is a real hunk.

I have a favorite scene. It’s where Bridget gets stuck eating dinner with a group of friends, most of whom are married. They give her a hard time about being single. As she gets ready to leave, Mark Darcy (Colin Firth) comes down the stairs and bumbles through a speech about how he likes her even though he shouldn’t. Their conversation is pure “Pride and Prejudice,” but one line he says always brings tears to my eyes.

He says to Bridget, “I like you just the way you are.”

When I hear this line, I always think it is the best pick up line there ever was. Every man should memorize it. I told this to my boyfriend and laughingly said he needed to say this to me more often. He smiled a mischievous grin and said, “This is a line you need to say to yourself more often.”

He’s a wise man, that boyfriend of mine and so right! As a great believer in the power of affirmations, I decided that every morning when I get up and look in the mirror, I will say “I like ME just the way I am!”

I’ve been practicing this affirmation for quite awhile and I have found it helpful. I admit there are days when I look in the mirror and it is really hard to get the affirmation out. But I’ve learned to make myself say it with gusto, even if it makes me laugh.

If you struggle with self-confidence, why not try this. It can’t hurt. Say it right now “I like ME just the way I am!” Okay, now say it again with even more feeling. Keep saying it over and over until you feel the power of these eight little words.

It’s okay not to believe these words right away. I know I struggle with it sometimes. I think it’s because it takes time to quiet those old voices, who like Bridget’s married friends, like to remind us of where we fall short. But I really believe if we just keep repeating the phrase, eventually we will convince our minds to believe it.

And there is scientific evidence that supports this. Evidently, you really can teach your mind to believe something you say over and over again. Then again, this ought to make sense. Many of us learned the negative things we believe about ourselves because someone told them to us over and over again. So, why wouldn’t positive affirmations work?

I plan to keep practicing these eight little words and I encourage you to give them a try, as well. Who knows you may find your self-confidence begins to grow the more you repeat the words! For my part, I will get up tomorrow morning, look in the mirror at my squashed hair, sleep wrinkled face and say “I like ME just the way I am!”

It’s the best pick ME up line there ever was!




Improving Self Confidence: How-To

Thomas Turner


Many people suffer from a lack of confidence, feeling that they just aren’t able to perform tasks well. These feelings can impede a person’s career progress, and can also result in a lack of productivity and accomplishment in the workplace. As a manager, you need to pay attention to the presence of these negative feelings in your employees. By improving their self-confidence, you can help them to become happier and more productive.

This task is sometimes quite difficult. There are some things in your work life that you have no control over. Perhaps you work with some people who don’t feel that they need any help building self-confidence. Therefore they don’t live up to their potential, which in turn means money and time lost for you and the company.

If you want to learn about building self esteem or improving self confidence in your workplace, you might want to consider looking online. There are tons of resources available to you on the web. Hundreds of sites are dedicated to the sole purpose of self confidence, and they have a lot of information there that you can use in your own situation.

Positive feedback, instead of negative feedback, should play a huge role in your management technique. Many sites suggest strongly that praise, rather than criticism, is the best way to motivate your workers and improve their behavior. Criticism should be used rarely and carefully to prevent alienation and discouragement. In fact, praising work prior to noting wrong behavior can help make your statements into constructive criticism rather than just angry criticism. In addition, give positive feedback whenever possible, not just to soften the impending critique.

One of the greatest benefits of having good self confidence on the job is the ability to accomplish your job related tasks more efficiently and timely, and with a higher overall quality. If your employees are proud of what they do, they will find the ability and the desire to produce high quality products in an efficient and timely manner.

All leaders should think about improving self-confidence as a goal. This is a great way to get employees motivated to do their best for themselves and for the company. Employees will gain confidence in themselves in every aspect of their life and the company will benefit with new customers and high standard merchandise.




How to build self esteem and Self Confidence ?

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Having been hurt a number of times in a relationship i suddenly find myself in the same position as the person who has hurt me. Lacking self esteem and self confidence. Whats the best way of trying to build it back up when your still with the same person and can sometimes dwell on the negatives.

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How To Build Unlimited Self Confidence In Any Dating Or Social Situation: The Secrets Of Supreme Self Confidence

Ethan Parker


Listen up.  Do you want to maintain confidence while dating and in social situations, career, and relationships? Do you want to harness the ability to set a clear direction in your life and achieve your goals without the fear and frustration of self-doubt? Do you see people more successful than you in life and wonder what their secret is?

It all comes down to one crucial ingredient: Self Confidence.

Self confidence is central to everything that happens in your life, and is the difference between simply accepting your destiny and waiting for it to happen to you, or the ability to empower yourself and inspire others.

So how do you get this self confidence in any situation?

You’ll hear lots of answers, but for my money, “Supreme Self Confidence,” from Slade Shaw, is the way to get there. This isn’t some wishy-washy, touchy-feely self-help guide with affirmations and generic motivating phrases. This is the REAL DEAL.

Rather than a long lecture, here are just a few things you can learn:

-Achieve personal confidence and overcome self-doubt.

-Achieve social confidence and create and maintain conversation with strangers.

-Achieve confidence in the workplace.

-Achieve sexual confidence in attracting men and women, dating, and relationships.

-Apply confidence-building techniques to your life such as stress relief, relaxation strategies, goal-setting, SWOT analysis, cognitive behavior therapy, and much more.



184 chock-full pages of tips, techniques, and advice that is going to channel your energies into overcoming your worst enemy: LACK OF SELF-CONFIDENCE.

What amazes me is that this course can really change your life.  Whether it’s a lot or a little really comes down to your commitment, but it will in some shape or form, and it’s cheaper than 15 minutes with a shrink!  For that you not only get about 200 pages of easy and effective education, but also some great, bonus MP3 audio tracks.

Oh yeah, in case $29.95 is too much–you get to download the book for 7 days before you have to pay for it.  For those of you like me who like to “try before you buy,” this is as good as it gets.

And if you like to learn on the go with an I-Pod or Creative, it’s really easy to download the course to your MP3 player.

Don’t just take my word for it, check it out.

P.S. If you don’t start buiding confidence for social situations and dating now, when will you?




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