Jon Mercer


Today I want to share an easy self-confidence tip, which affects not only how confident you feel internally, but also causes other people to perceive you as being more confident. This one simple change in your behavior, when used consistently, will have a tremendous impact on your life, though it is the simplest tip imaginable:

Raise your chin up high.

There is no physical attribute that suggests high confidence as much as a raised chin. Try this experiment: stand in front of your bathroom mirror using your usual posture. Observe how you look in the mirror and make a note of how confident you seem to be (or not be) at this moment.

Now walk away from the mirror for just a moment, and adjust your posture so that you are holding your chin MUCH higher than what is normal for you. In fact, hold your chin up so high that it makes you feel slightly awkward (I’ll explain why you feel this way and just a moment). Now step back and front of the mirror and observe yourself with your new chin-up posture.

Notice how confident the person in the mirror appears now with their head held high, leading with their chin. Big difference right?

When we lack self-confidence, we tend to subconsciously hold our chin quite a bit lower than is normal. This becomes a habit after a while — it becomes our base-level physical posture. Because of this habit, you may feel somewhat awkward (and even pretentious) when you first start “leading with your chin,” and holding your head up very high. But this is simply because you’re not used to it — nothing more.

Holding your chin up high has two powerful effects:

1. It indicates to others that you have high self-confidence and the self-respect. How can a simple chin raise tell someone so much about you? It’s a long story, but mostly it has to do with how human beings have involved, and the symbols that we have learned to accept as shortcuts for certain types of behavior. The bottom-line is, EVERYONE appears to have greater self-confidence when they hold their chin high. No exceptions.

On the other hand, dropping your chin is always an obvious “tell” of low self confidence. And not only does it send signals of low self confidence to others, it sends those same signals to our subconscious mind, causing us to feel it even less confident! It’s a type of vicious circle.

2. Holding your chin high can actually make you FEEL more confident. This is the psychological concept of behaviorism. It is a recognized psychological fact that certain physical behaviors change the chemical production within the brain. Standing straight and tall, and poking your chin out is just such a behavior, and by affecting this posture, you will actually cause yourself to feel more confident inside.

The duel affects of the chin-up posture make it one of the easiest ways to simultaneously appear more confident to others, while developing greater feelings of self-confidence within. Obviously, these two affects can feed off of each other as well, creating even more self-confidence and self-worth.

The most important thing to remember about using the chin up posture is to do it every single day. Consistency is the key. Even when you’re alone, practice holding your chin MUCH higher than you normally would.

Now, one word of warning: the first few times you go out in public with your chin held high standing straight and tall, you might feel a little awkward — like you’re trying to be something you’re not. This can actually cause you to feel self-conscious, and possibly, even less confident than usual. But don’t worry; this is extremely common, and nothing to be alarmed about at all.

In fact, go ahead and accept the idea that it could take time for you to adjust to your new chin-up posture, and recognize that you may feel a little uneasy in the beginning. Understand that this uneasiness will pass as the new posture becomes a strong habit — it won’t take long.

Try this challenge: pay attention to the placement of your chin and use the chin-up posture every day for 21 days in a row — this is how long it takes your subconscious to firmly accept a new habit. After 21 days you will FEEL more self-confident, and you will be PERCEIVED as having higher self-confidence by others. It’s a win-win situation!

Paul Hata


Self-confidence is an important key to success in any walk of life. People with self-confidence are noticed more. They achieve their goals relatively easily. In contrast, people who lack self-confidence often end up being losers. You too need to build your self-confidence if you want to do well in life. Here are ten tips that can help you build that elusive self-confidence:

1. Self-confidence is found in people who have a healthy self-esteem. They know their personal worth, and act accordingly. A good way to improve your personal worth is to make a list of your accomplishments every day. You will be surprised to know how many positive acts you perform every day in life, but which you don’t notice. Once you start looking at this list, your self-confidence will boom.

2. Be clear about your goals. If need be, break your goals into smaller, more manageable tasks. Pat yourself every time you achieve a minor goal. It will boost you’re a self-confidence, and help you achieve bigger goals.

3. Find a mentor who can help you reach your goal. Most people, who have done well in life, have a mentor who has traveled the same road on which they are traveling today. Meet your mentor regularly, and seek his advice and support as a routine. You will find that you are learning something valuable every day.

4. Socialize with people who are positive and supportive, who like and respect you. Give them the same support and respect that they give you. Avoid people who are negative and critical of you. Such people erode your self-confidence. They make you look at your negative self, and not your positive self. After some time, you get enveloped in their cynical and negative world-view. Nothing can be more damaging than that. Dump such friends as soon as you can.

5. Pay attention to how you look. Take pleasure in wearing good clothes and being well groomed. It makes you feel good. People too look at you differently. Remember that every human being wants to be found in the company of smart, intelligent, successful people. You can soon be a centre of attraction if you radiate a positive, smart look. It can very easily make the difference between success and failure.

6. Don’t be afraid of failures. Take them in your stride and move on. Say to yourself that you will succeed the next time. Never make the mistake of allowing your failures to overwhelm you. They will force you into a shell, and destroy your self-confidence. A better way is to shrug your failures as something inconsequential, and take on a new challenge. Of course, you must learn from your mistakes, and be realistic about your abilities. People who try to over-reach often fall down. You should not allow that to happen in the name of self-confidence.

7. Keep yourself fit by exercising regularly and controlling your diet. A fit and healthy person is much more active and achieves more in his career. Physical fitness, like self-confidence, glows on your face.

8. Have a wide range of interests, and take an active interest in what’s going on in the world. Meet and talk to a lot of people. Don’t focus all your attention only on your work and on your problems. Divert your attention to new interests, and new tasks. This will keep your mind happily occupied, and boost your self-confidence.

9. Take part in activities that you are good at. You may have excelled at things in the past and then given them up due to lack of time. Return to those activities again and see your self-confidence grow.

10. Pick up a new hobby or craft that interests you. It will keep you occupied. It will also increase your self-confidence as you become more skilled in it.

Try to practice these tips as faithfully as you can, and see the difference in your life.

clanderson1973


I recently quit drinking and and I am trying to put my life back together and rebuild my self esteem and confidence… How can I accomplish this?

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Munya Chinongoza


Self confidence is a characteristic that we are all born with, but it is sometimes worn down due to a number of different factors. An unstable family life, bullies at school, and even the media can cause someone’s self confidence to decrease, but it can just as easily be built right back up by following a very simple steps. Even though low self confidence is not life threatening, it is always important to feel good about yourself and have confidence in everyday life.

Self confidence should be built up the same as it is broken down, piece-by-piece. By first believing that you feel good about yourself, and being happy with your inside and outside appearance, you will lead yourself to actually believe that you are content with who you are. Instead of dwelling about little things like not being the skinniest in your class or the smartest at your job, think about how beautiful you are and what a great contribution you are to your job.

Dressing nicely can also build your self confidence, because when you look good you will feel good. Although clothes do not make a person who they are, by feeling good about your appearance you will start to feel good about yourself.

Your posture can also play a huge role in how you feel about yourself. Try walking with great posture for an entire week, and you should notice a significant difference. You will no longer feel tired or sad, but instead ready to take on whatever is thrown your way. Your posture will also affect others around you, and they will be able to notice the boost in confidence as well.

Complementing others is a great way to build your self-confidence, because you will be able to feel good about making others feel good. You may be able to boost someone else’s self-confidence, and they can also return the favor. Making fun of someone will only have the opposite affect, since it will most likely leave you feeling mad at yourself for criticizing someone else.

Working out is a great way to boost your self-confidence, even if you are happy about your physical appearance. You will be left with more energy, you will feel healthier, and you may even have a chance to meet some new friends at your local gym.

When trying to build your self confidence, you need to make sure you appear confident in everything you do. Speak up when you have something important to say, and show everyone else that you are confident in everything you are saying. When you have a suggestion make sure you voice it, and stand by everything you have to say. Don’t be scared about being judged by others, since the majority of the time everyone else in the room feels the exact same way you do. By speaking up at least once in every group situation you are in, you will become a pro at public speaking in no time.

Building up your self esteem is very easy, as long as you believe in yourself. By making a small effort to improve small aspects of your life, you will see a significant change in no time. You can record your thoughts in a small diary or journal to track your progress, and also find out what tips work best for making you feel great. So How Do You Boost Your Confidence Well, stop putting yourself down, and start going down the road to build your self confidence and start feeling great about yourself.

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