Delton Doucet


Your self-esteem is very important in the level of confidence you will have throughout your daily life. It is the way you view and feel about yourself that will have a very profound effect on how you life will proceed each day.

The opinions and experiences that you have gathered since child hood from family members, school, your friends and society as a whole plays a part in developing self-esteem but how you take it all in and view those opinions determines your selfesteem.

We seek encouragement and approval from others especially parents and role models as we are growing up and this plays a huge roll in the development and the building of self esteem as we try to build confidence within our selves.

As teens and into adult hood there is a constant barrage of commercials, opinions from others, family members that we should be slim, dress fashionable, be financially successful and if we are having problems living up to all this it can and does have a impact on our lives and leads to low self esteem.

The opposite is also just as true that if we have managed to live up to this expectation it can and sometime does lead to pride in our ability and in ourselves but friends and society can view us as being arrogant and conceited and resent us for being so successful and this can have an effect on our self confidence.

Your self-esteem will fluctuate daily and is highly affected by other people and events of the day but you are in total control of your self confidence and self esteem levels, it is up to you to determine if you will allow these events to control your life.

Just as rejection and loss can be underlying factors for low self esteem success and achievement can great boost you to higher levels of confidence and self-esteem.

However how we feel solely about ourselves is also determined by our relationships we have with others and if we are felt worthwhile as individuals. We are humans and we have a natural instinct to be wanted and included as well as wanted to contribute and be a value member of society that makes a difference, we want to feel that we matter.

Many people seek out a life coach or a confidence coach to help build self esteem and to build confidence and while this is great for I feel everyone can use help every now and then what every one must realize is that change is not easily accomplished.

Change means stepping outside of you comfort zone and this can lead to more selfesteem issues. This is why goal setting is very important when developing self esteem. It allows you to set small goals to achieve to eventually work you way up to the big goals you have for yourself all while along the way you gradually build your confidence levels and your self esteem to becoming the person you wish to become and also by doing this you build a inner confidence that will not be easily influenced by others and events is society.

Nothing worth having ever comes easy. If everything came easily to you then you wouldn’t value it so much when you acquired it.

You must be determined to improving your self esteem and you will soon find yourself achieving greater things as your confidence builds. Remember the way you feel about yourself also determines how others will interact with you and vice versa.

One of the best things I ever did for my self esteem issues was to finally be able to convince myself that if I was going to have the life I wanted I didn’t have time to worry about what others thought of me.

If I allowed what they thought of me to determine my actions then that meant they were controlling my life and I am the only one that controls my own life and that goes for you also.

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Travis

Muna wa Wanjiru


Self esteem off spring does not come from others’ praising words. The child must develop self esteem from within. It is an inner feeling of being worthy. The child must develop self esteem that will help him\her gracefully. You should not allow your child just because he\she has good looking. The pride must come from the renowned characters that the child possesses.

Self esteem is a feeling of confidence. Most of us believe that it is related to adults only. But children have more self esteem. As a parent you must help your child to get more confidence. If you child lacks self esteem then he\she will the ability to face the society. Even a small teasing will hurt off spring self esteem. So healthy off spring self esteem must be developed.

Self esteem for off spring is essential because the child lacking such abilities will face number of problems in education also. Remember off spring self esteem must not be an over dose that will result in child’s superior complex.

Self esteem of off spring will be affected in many ways. Family situations and bullying at school may affect off spring self esteem. The children of divorced parents are affected more. As a parent you can help your child to develop self esteem by telling beautiful stories with meaningful messages. The child’s grasping capacity is normally excellent. So the stories of good people, leaders and warriors will help him\her to develop self esteem.

If you stimulate your off spring self esteem then they will have the wonderful chance of getting healthy and successful life in the future. Another important thing you have to do to develop off spring self esteem is to listen the child’s words. If you never hear your child’s words or simply ignore him\her then off spring self esteem will be affected. You must spend some time daily to hear your child’s words. The feeling of safety provided by the parents will help developing off spring self esteem.

Self esteem of off spring can be increased by the parents by believing their children. This will provide a feeling of trust worthiness in children. If your child commits any mistake don’t punish or scold him\her in public. Even if you raise your voice in front of your child’s friends then the self esteem of your child will definitely affected. You must make the child realize his\ her mistake by advising calmly in your separate room. Off spring self esteem is thus an essential thing that must be developed by the parents to provide a bright future to your child.



Shannon

Michael Teo


Self-esteem includes a person’s subjective appraisal of himself or herself as inherently positive or negative to some degree. Self-esteem involves both self-relevant beliefs and associated self-relevant emotions. It also finds expression in behavior (e.g., assertiveness/timorousness, confidence/caution). In addition, self-esteem can be construed as an enduring personality characteristic or as a temporary psychological condition. Finally, self-esteem can be specific to a particular dimension or global in extent.

Level and quality of self-esteem, though correlated, are not identical. Self-esteem can be high but fragile and low but stable. However, the quality of self-esteem can be indirectly assessed in several ways: (I) in terms of its constancy over time (stability), (II) in terms of its independence upon particular conditions being met (non-contingency), and (III) in terms of how ingrained it is at a basic psychological level (implicitness or automaticity).

The way you feel about yourself, your self-esteem or self-worth, drives your thoughts. These thoughts transform into actions, which are the key factors in getting what you want out of life. If you are not achieving your goals, take some time and assess how you feel about yourself. Achieving your goals takes repeated action and you cannot give up too early. High self-esteem can give you the drive, determination, and personal power needed to take these actions and be persistent until you achieve success.

However, if you are constantly critical of yourself, then these feelings will reduce your self-esteem. If you have low self-esteem, then it will be harder to take the right actions to enable you to achieve your goals. This relation between thoughts and actions is what keeps you from getting started or what causes you to give up. So what can you do to conquer self-doubt and strengthen your actions? It all usually starts with positive thinking. Start by spending some time congratulating yourself for what you have previously accomplished in life.

Everyone definitely has had his or her share of winning. Make a list of these accomplishments and what actions you took to make them occur. Think about the obstacles that you overcame or what special actions you took to attain each goal. This is a great way to acknowledge your successes and give your confidence a boost. Your list will be the base that you build on for your future successes. Negative thoughts are the utmost dream killer known to man! Telling yourself “I can’t” will lessen your self-esteem, which will reduce the effectiveness of any actions that you take, and prevent you from achieving your goals. Your list will reassure you whenever negative thinking tries to take over your mind. Instead, of dwelling on “I can’t” tell for yourself “I can”. Positive thoughts bring confidence, optimism, and focused action that give you a much better chance of achieving your goals. “I can” is best way to plant seeds in your mind for positive thoughts. The resulting high self-esteem will provide the extra edge that you need to drive away your fears and eliminate any doubt that keeps you from getting the things in life you want to achieve.



Lorrie

Shahriyar


Self esteem is important factor for everyone, especially for an adolescent, in their social life and personal life. Here you will know the four affecting factors of self esteem and how to improve self esteem by deal with those affecting things. As In their adolescent period, they grow the base of self- esteem for full life. We may be known that there are many factors that affect adolescent self esteem. Children begin to develop self esteem while very young. Parents, friends, teachers and the television all the surroundings of the children contribute a lot, without knowing, in their mental development.

Self Physical Image factor- is one of the major factors that affect an adolescent’s self esteem. I am saying, it doesn’t depend on how he or she looks like it depends on what is the concept of beauty he or she has or way one thinks about his or her body image is. Children from very childhood and onwards may feel the society prefer good looking people or value them more than others. For instance, kids at the same age prefer to associate with better looking kids rather than those with deformities or physical problems. And we know about school Teasing and bullying on those time can be huge harmful for adolescent self esteem.

Family Support - family support and encouragement can actively shape adolescent self esteem. Sometime, It may looks like adolescents are embarrassed by displays of affection from their family members and relatives but these display in reality play a vital role in keeping them well grounded and positive in themselves. Lot of communication from family members, parents and brothers or sisters, can help to provide a good base for expressions of emotional feelings like happiness, sorrow, grief and anger. Giving children the necessary love and caring that they need and it will prevent boost his or her self esteem in their adolescent time. .

Include yourself in Activities that you are good at or like to do-Taking part or having an active role outside of lessons is good for building adolescent self esteem. Maybe you like to dance, play football, whatever you like you should include yourself. This will encourage them to relate and come together with other adolescents. This also gives kids a chance to stand out in something, which can be very good for adolescent self esteem. Find something that interests you and try it out to see if you can excel in it and we should remember not to be easily discouraged by initial failures.

Get An Idea Of Who You Are-it may be a hard job for adolescents as they are just figuring out how to deal with adolescence things. But we can get an idea of our goal in life and start from there. In adolescent time, you may have definite likes and dislikes as well as some clear idea of what you want to be or what interests you most. Having a clear goal in life is great benefit for not only for adolescent but also for anybodies self esteem . By the way, it maybe some radical idea for Adolescents to meditate to know themselves well ,but this will definitely calm down their dysfunctional emotions or Will able to handle emotional stress well And will be figure it out who really they are.

Maybe, some adolescent having problem with their self esteem but we should remember one thing in mind change is possible whatever our present situation is. I wish you good luck in this journey of having better self esteem for better life.



Beth

Muna wa Wanjiru


Self esteem is the opinion that you have of yourself. Self esteem is partly about the confidence that you possess. It is based on your attitude towards your own self. It also depicts the value or the attitude that you have for the following points:

* Your own value as a person,

* About the job you do,

* The achievements that you have had,

* How do you think that the others see,

* Your own purpose or your goals in life,

* Where do you think you stand when compared to others,

* Your strengths and weaknesses,

* Your social status and how you interact with the others,

* Your own independence and how do you develop your position in the world.

When you consider these points, you are sure to understand what exactly self esteem is.

Self esteem is classified into two parts:

a) Low Self Esteem,

b) High Self Esteem.

Low Self Esteem: low self esteem is the result of the poor attitude that you have towards yourself and the way you think about the points that are mentioned above. You may think low about yourself like you don’t have any purpose in yourself or that there is no reason for your living.

High Self Esteem: High self esteem is the exactly opposite low self esteem. It is one of the most important aspects of your life. Your behaviour is mostly dependent on your self esteem. When you have a high self esteem you feel unusually confident and sure about how are you going to go about your life. Also you feel much happier than the other people around you. You are in a state of high motivation and have the right attitude towards your work all this is the right combination for your own success.

Self esteem is therefore the most important aspect of your life and is the base of a positive attitude.

It is quite easy to know if a person is having high self esteem or not but it’s the low self esteem that escapes untraced. The following are some of the symptoms to recognize low self esteem in a person.

* Some people consider themselves lost and unworthy of everything.

* These people are the worst possible risk takers.

* Most of the people work and are always on a lookout for rejection.

* Many people are fearful of conflict with others.

* Most of these people are poor at solving their own problems and are always looking up to the others for words of praise and approval.



James