Muna wa Wanjiru


Self-esteem is essential for the positive approaches towards the ways and means of facing the problems. Self-esteem is a road for smooth approaches towards the ways of seeing at things. Self-esteem develops a confidence in an individual; it helps him to stop worrying about the problems and helps the individual to face it with laudable courage. An individual becomes aware of his/her responsibilities and he sets goals and tries his best to achieve his/her objectives laid…

What is low self-esteem?

Cultivating negativity or arising of negative thoughts leads to low self-esteem. Low self-esteem may arise of constant tensions, workloads, enmity etc. low self-esteem results in loosing confidence. One cannot face the problems as efficiently as he/she is used to. Low self-esteem results in unhappiness, loosing of motivation, loosing of self-confidence. It also affects the routine as well as the relations of an individual. The person starts loosing interest in things happening around he/she prefer to be lonely as not option to mix up in the group.

How frequently does Low self-esteem may occur?

Low self-esteem occurs very frequently. It is very difficult to predict as when it will occur. However, mostly it occurs in stressed out conditions.

What does a person experience during Low self-esteem?

An individual experiences the following things during Low self-esteem: -

1. An individual gets hurt very easily even a single remark is passed against him/her.

2. He/she feels very shy to go in public.

3. An individual is unable to share his thoughts as well as feelings with others.

4. He/she prefer to be alone.

5. An individual gets irritated on very small things.

6. He/she tends to dislike of what they are and blame their selves

7. The individual tires to avoid new experiences.

8. He/she may develop sick feelings towards others

9. He/she is most of the times depressed.

10. The person gets sacred of fears very easily.

11. The individual may even feel of harming them selves.

12. The individual is very afraid that the might be ditched if he/she is in a relationship

13. The person feels as if he/she is a big looser

14. The individual is scared of handling things and is very sacred to give any interviews or exams.

Therefore, it is very essential that one should not posses a low self-esteem. It is very important to have a strong and a positive self-esteem.



Trish

GregFrost


In this day and age, it is not surprising to see how pervasive low self esteem has become. In an age where girls and women alike suffer from some form of eating disorders brought on by issues with their self image, self esteem related problems have definitely become a major issue. In America alone, 20 percent of college women suffer from bulimia. This is the age where many feel the need to be slim and trim and beautiful in order to be accepted by society at large.

The truth is, low self esteem can be caused by a great number of things. Feelings of jealousy, envy, emotional insecurity, loneliness, guilt, and even self pity can contribute to low self esteem. Symptoms of low self esteem include denial, the inability to express one’s feelings, a heavy dependence on others to feel good about one’s self, blaming others for one’s misfortunes, and not having personal boundaries.

Low self esteem is really about not valuing or having high regard for one’s self. People suffering from low self esteem feel inferior, as though they are not in charge of their lives. They feel victimized, ostracized from society, and unimportant to everyone around them. Because it affects their subconscious, low self esteem is really a deep-seated phenomenon that has its origins in one’s formative years as a child, and is often not an easy problem to fix.

People suffering from self pity tend to be manipulative, using their belief of low self worth to get what they want out of other people. They become almost like parasites, clinging onto the good will of others and becoming dependent on them just to get through their lives. Obviously this would breed negativity in any sort of relationship. Similarly, jealousy can also cause negativity when used as a tool of manipulation.

Some might consider the heavy dependence on others a disease, but in all actuality, it is not by definition a disease. It is a condition affecting the emotional and behavioural aspects of a person that is developed over time and learned, and it affects one’s ability of having healthy relationships or any relationships to speak of. Symptoms of this condition include guilt when expressing honest thoughts, giving more than one receives, and suffering from emotional hurt easily when one’s effort is not seen as significant or even recognised.

The factors contributing to emotional insecurity include a lack of a healthy balance between work and family and one’s self, the fear of intimacy with loved ones, and needing some form of validation in life through drama.

Overcoming these symptoms of low self esteem is crucial if you are aiming to live a healthy, well-adjusted life as an adult. If you are unsure of what to do to improve your relationships with those around you and your feelings of insecurity and self worth, always seek help, from loved ones or even a healthcare professional. The number one mistake people tend to make is believing that they can overcome this problem alone. Low self esteem is a condition that is affecting millions around the world every single day, and recognising the symptoms will definitely go a long way in preventing and overcoming the condition.



Patricia

Abhishek Agarwal


This write is for those people who do not have enough confidence in themselves and have generally a low esteem of themselves. For others, this can be a useful guide to check their own personality and see whether they are overestimating themselves. In that case, a balance needs be struck for overestimation also alienates people as much as those who have low self esteem.

The basic cause for low self esteem is generally because the people who have it are either shy, or introvert, and keep to themselves. This by itself is not a bad thing, but when it comes to interaction with others - and that is unavoidable - it matters a great deal.

Low esteem people generally come from a background where there are problems at home, or sibling rivalry, or for some other reasons. But it is not as if they can’t change themselves. They can. All it requires is a little effort at examining their own selves, and if they are lucky, they can be guided by a mentor, who can help in removing these ‘ridges’ in their external face to the world at large.

Low esteem people generally compare themselves with others who are quite the opposite of their own character. They admire people who are outgoing, are confident of themselves,and have generally good fund at work, and leisure. They have the ability to make other people laugh, and are greeted cheerfully when they appear on the scene.

Changing low esteem requires some, no, great effort. One of the first things that a person with low self esteem has to do is to take help; that help can be provided not so much by family members, but rather by a trained professional who could be a psychologist, or even a close friend. Recognising low self esteem is the biggest hurdle. Some people have the luck where they find a mentor, who observes the low self esteem person, and tries to change that behavior by lending a helping hand, without being overt about.

What causes low esteem is a complex mix of various factors. An hurting incident early in life, a traumatic experience in later years, or a problem in family ties, and sibling jealousy often make mouses of an superbly intelligent person.

To get out of this kind of situation, professional help, accompanied by mentoring help, often transforms that kind of person into a more healthy and refreshing lifestyle. If the low esteem person recognises that it is low esteem that is a cause, then, the best way would be to put in writing what causes that low esteem, and how it can be overcome. It is a very very difficult task, and a mentor is necessarily required to help that person in the early stages of transformation.

How then does one find a mentor? Unless the person talks to someone about the problem, or the mentor themselves diagnose that problem, it can be a dead end situation. Stage fright is one such example where even an outgoing personality would suddenly become a low esteem person. Low esteem persons are people who are seeking approval of their peers, without regard to their own ability, and are dependent on other people’s opinion of themselves.

They have first to learn that other people’s opinion may vary according to that person’s own personality. An aggressive personality would naturally torture or even people with low esteem. The person with low esteem would only look at negative features, and never at their positive features. They have to be taught to draw up a balance sheet of their perceived negatives and positives. They have to be coached to be themselves, and not mould their personality according to the likes of dislikes of other people. Standing up for themselves is the fist that breaks that low esteem.

Second, they have to practice this regularly and religiously. They must adopt a more positive insight about themselves, their good features and good attributes. A balance sheet if drawn up by them would contain more negatives than positives. They are therefore advised to seek professional help.Most often these people suffer from various neurotic diseases which a physician has to diagnose as not having to do anything with their physical ailments but rather their mental outlook. An otherwise healthy person develops acidity, has frequent headaches, symptoms of depression are some indicators of a low esteem person.

Therefore, it is best if either the low esteem person attends personality development classes, is forced to meet other people squarely, and not shy away from company or parties. Of course, help from a professional personality developer is a must. Low esteem people require a great deal of time before they really open up to their reality, so persistence and patience is required.



Donald

Ronen David


Self esteem is how a person feels about themselves. Most of the time we can be our own worst critics. Not feeling good about how you look or your personality can lead to anxiety when you are in a group. You may be shy and reserved even though you want to talk to other people. Having self esteem doesn’t mean you are always confident or that you think you are better than others. It just means you have accepted who you are and you are willing to live with it.

Having self esteem doesn’t just happen, it is a process. Many people go through an awkward stage during adolescence. It can be hard to like yourself when you are always comparing yourself to your peers. It can be difficult to be an individual when to be popular you have to be like everyone else. Yet life isn’t always like high school and that will pass. Yet at the time this is a very important time in a child’s life. Parents need to remember what that was like so they can offer support.

Parents need to realize how important self esteem is. Teaching children from an early age to find good qualities in themselves is important. It will allow them to be happier and healthier individuals. A poor self esteem can affect a person in many ways. They may decide to drop out of school or have a hard time keeping a job. They may withdraw from other people and turn to vices such as drugs or alcohol to feel comfortable around others.

There has been a great deal of information in recent years to link poor self esteem to those with depression. Counseling is often a very effective tool in order to help with this. Changing behaviors and seeing yourself as others do is the first step of developing your self esteem. Relationships can be detrimental at times to a person’s self esteem as well.

For example they may have a partner that calls them names and tells them they are stupid. They may get the impression from them that no one else will ever want them. Over a period of time they come to believe this. The self esteem a person has is very important to their overall happiness and mental stability.

Many experts have the believe that a poor self esteem is directly connected to depression. This is due to the various assessments that are completed in mental health establishments. It is often the poor self esteem that leads a person to withdraw from various types of social situations.

It can also allow them to self destruct various types of relationships. They may not believe that someone so great would actually care about them so they end the relationship. They may continue to push that person away until they decide to leave them. That scenario though tends to just reinforce their belief that they aren’t good enough for anyone.

There is a substantial amount of information out there to indicate that the reason so many adolescents in our society suffer from depression is due to their poor self esteem. This is why so many health classes in junior high and high school cover self esteem. They also do various types of activities in order to help students get a better image of themselves. Youths tend to classify themselves by how others see them or how they perceive that others see them.

Many adolescents simply aren’t ready for the transitions that will occur. Even a jump from junior high to high school can affect them. In junior high they are an upper classman and have their friends around them. When they enter high school though they are the new kid on the block. Many of their old friends are now scattered and they have to struggle to assess their own identity.

Adults can also suffer from poor self esteem and depression. Yet the fact that most bouts with depression start out in adolescents make sense. Research on groups of adults with depression have found that when they are feel negative about themselves is when the depression is at its worst.

Due to the correlation between self esteem issues and depression, many doctors and mental health professionals now require therapy. They don’t want to just give the individual some medication to take. The combination of medication and therapy really seems to help them to reduce the effects of depression and to improve their self esteem.



Carlos

Diane Corriette


Esteem is a simple word. It is worth and value that we apply to people, places, and situations. We have esteem when a professional puts in an exemplary performance whether it is in sports, acting, or simply doing the right thing.

But the most important place we need to apply esteem is within ourselves. We must maintain our self-esteem in order to place value on ourselves as a worthy individual in the world.

Self-esteem affects every single part of our lives creating a miserable place if it is low and a vibrant up beat place when it is balanced. Elevating esteem so that it is at an empowering level for ourselves could very well be the key to happiness in life.

It is important that when you aim for high self-esteem, it is not at the level of thinking you are “better” or more “superior” to another, but instead it is at a level where you are okay with you, others and the world.

That’s also the difference between arrogance and loving yourself. There is nothing wrong with knowing how great you are. In fact it is an important element of self-esteem - self-love. However, when we believe we are better than other people, or more superior, that’s just plain arrogance and is best avoided at all costs.

Most people’s feelings and thoughts about themselves fluctuate somewhat based on their daily experiences. The grade you get on an exam, how your friends treat you, ups and downs in a romantic relationship-all can have a temporary impact on your wellbeing. This is because people collapse an event and what it means about them.

So if you are in the selling profession you may believe you are an excellent sales person when you sell 8 out of 10 products, but not when you sell 2 out of 10. You are the same person whether you are selling 2 products or 8 products. It is important to separate your behavior and what it “means” about you. Instead of celebrating the fact that you made 8 sales and being misery when you only made 2 sales, celebrate the fact that you are engaged in the art of selling. Enjoy the actions you take, rather than the end result. That way whether you sell 2 or 8 is irrelevant because you will be thinking how great you are for just being out there selling something.

Your own self-esteem, however, is something more fundamental than the normal “ups and downs” associated with situational changes. For people with good basic self-esteem, normal “ups and downs” may lead to temporary fluctuations in how they feel about themselves, but only to a limited extent. In contrast, for people with poor basic self-esteem, these “ups and downs” may make all the difference in the world.

Healthy self-esteem is based on our ability to assess ourselves accurately (know ourselves) and still be able to accept and to value ourselves unconditionally. This means being able to realistically acknowledge our strengths and limitations (which is part of being human) and at the same time accepting ourselves as worthy and worthwhile without conditions or reservations.

Raising your self-esteem to levels that will enhance your life and the way you view life is a journey worth embarking on. It can make a tremendous difference in your quality of life. Learning techniques to raise self-esteem can be taught and put into practice in just a few days. However, it will take practice to keep your self-worth at the forefront.

There is a common mis-conception that people with a good level of self-esteem feel great about themselves every day and never have to do any work to keep themselves there, but that is just not true.

No one goes to the gym for a few weeks after 10 years or more of inactivity and expects to be totally fit within weeks. No one would go to the gym for a few weeks and then decide they have gone long enough and don’t need to go anymore. No one would go to the gym after years of inactivity, get fit, and then never return again. They will need to return at least 3 or 4 times a week to maintain their fitness levels.

So why then do people think that self-esteem is something that can be acquired in a weekend, or within weeks? Why is it people moan and complain if after a few months of working on their self esteem they are thinking better about themselves but are still slipping back? Why is it that people believe once they have great esteem they can just stop, and it will remain that way forever?

Maybe I will never know the answer to those questions! But what I ask is that you get ready to commit yourself to however long it takes. The time is going to go anyway so why not be productively working on your self-esteem until it is automatically integrated into your very being, and even then accept that sometimes your life will not go to plan, but that does not have to effect what you think about who you are.



Lorrie