Dealing with a Truly Ended Relationship
August 26th, 2010Most of the questions that we get from women about relationships have to do with ways to mend a drifting duet or the like. Occasionally, however, we do get questions about how to cope with a relationship that is truly over. This is a really tough question that aims to mend a broken heart. There are no surgical procedures for this kind of life trauma. You must, of necessity, find your way through the jungle of despair and back out into the light.
That said, there are, however, some simple things you can do to point your life in a positive direction. Assuming that the relationship is over, should review it and take a long hard look at what happened that was good and not so good; of what you learned or might have learned. The corollary intent here is final validation that it is, indeed, over. Coming to grips with that element of historical perspective is priceless. We should like to offer this cute but significantly effective way to ‘nail the coffin’ on your ended relationship. We sincerely hope it helps.
Select a shoe box that houses your favorite pair of shoes - note, this is important - and place in it all remaining physical evidence of the relationship. Take any pictures, mementos, vacation brochures, or anything else that reminds you of him and gather them together. Wrap them and put them in the shoebox. Seal the box with tape and take it with you as you join your friends for a duet wake. This is a specifically invited group of friends - duly instructed to wear black - that agree to share a meal, the intention of which is to bury this ended relationship. Have a toast and vow to move on with your life. End the outing by visiting a construction site or other venue where you can actually, literally bury the shoebox in the mud. Take your friends with you; they will all love it!
Get up early the next morning and spend the entire day pampering yourself. This should include shopping, getting your hair done and anything else that spoils you. End the day with some specific plans for what you intend to do with the rest of your life. Having buried the relationship - in more ways that you know - a truly dead relationship will stay dead throughout the night and you should awake rested and upbeat.
If, on the other hand, your protracted efforts have produced a morning still grieving and still missing the guy then perhaps you should not consider the relationship dead. If you decide to try and get ex back from a breakup, or if you are planning to win your ex back, a thorough understanding of the strategies in our other articles in this series will help to get your ex back.






