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I don’t have a very high self esteem mainly because of my older brother who is sometimes Verbally abusive to me because he is Bi-polar.
I don’t have a very high self esteem mainly because of my older brother who is sometimes Verbally abusive to me because he is Bi-polar.
I always take things personally so how do I just let things go?
So that inturn I don’t think Im that pretty even if other people think I am.
Not all brothers are mean! My other brother is Loving and nicer then the one who is verbally abusive who is 32.
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You need to learn to accept yourself for who you are. Instead of concentrating on the things you don’t like about yourself, turn to a new light and think about what you do like about yourself. Everyone is different and beautiful in their own way. You can’t let verbal abuse let you down. Just remember, people who make fun of you, or put you down are just doing it because they have low self esteem and it makes them feel better. Just look in the mirror and say to yourself ” I am one sexy mama! and nobody can stop me” Go get a new outfit, try a new hairstyle, get your make up done. If people think you are pretty and they are telling you that, believe them. I’m sure you are gorgeous inside and out. Don’t let words bring you down. Be strong, and be proud of yourself. You are who you are and you should love yourself.
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become active. start doing things with your life and start focusing on what you need to do everyday. if you’re in school concentrate on getting good grades and get a job. the busier you are, the less you worry about other people and the more you worry about yourself. thats how the real world works.
hope this helps!
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ok your brother has a problem so you shouldnt pay him no mind… and if some one else say something to you that you dont like then you just forget them and do it movin and to make you feel better about yo self just say im beautiful everyday or find something you like about yo self
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block him out, realize that what he is saying is not true. Pick 2 or 3 things that u really like about yourself, personality, phisical, or otherwise, and compliment yourself, go from there, find more things you like about yourself in your daily actions and decisins, if your brother insults you, investigate his claim, see if its true, at least to the degree hes saying it is, and if its not, dont worry about it, dont get upset at his words and congratulate yourself for that too, its a learning process & it wont happen all at once, but as you do, youll notice a change in your attitude & how you react to different situations. It took more than a day to tear down your self esteem, and its gonna take more than one day to build it back up. Just remember, you are beautiful in Gods eyes, you are his princess, dont ever let that go.
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I second the opinions given by all the people before me. They are absolutely right.
I would also suggest hypnosis. Go to google and search for hypnosis websites which let you download at a very small fee.
I am currently doing it for weight loss and it has helped me handle my food craving better than before. The website that I am getting my downloads is . Check it out.
Good luck dear.
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My brother told me to do this and while it makes me feel silly in the beginning, I feel better about myself now.
Stand in front of a mirror every morning and tell yourself -
I’m smart. I’m beautiful. I’m relaxed.
Three times before starting your day. If you say this enough times, you’ll start to believe it. And also go exercise. The endorphins will kick in and you’ll feel better about yourself. ^^
Good luck!
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Read page 2 at and then go to the self esteem websites, and practise one of the relaxation methods daily. Avoid your brother as much as possible, and ask your parents to tell him to stop verbally abusing you, because it is having an adverse effect on you, psychologically. Copy/print pages 5 and 2, and give to your parents to give to him. In future, say to him: “looks like someone needs to practise their relaxation techniques, or change their medication”, if he starts abusing you again, and tell your parents.
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Remember, self-esteem comes from within. It does not and cannot depend upon what others think of you. The opinions of others can be wrong. And it’s very narrow-minded of anyone to think that appearance has anything to do with self-worth.
You are not perfect, but EVERYONE has something or many things about them that are good. And EVERYONE is unique.
Think of the top 10 (or 20) good things about you. When the list doesn’t want to grow, just stop. Don’t worry.
Put each good thing in the form of a compliment you could pay to yourself.
Say it. “I have a nice smile. or I am kind to animals.” etc.
Do this for the entire list.
Read these nice things you’ve said about you daily or twice daily.
After you’ve memorized the compliments, go back and either add more or write another list as long as the first.
Do this until the list is over 30 items long.
Next time someone short-tempered or ignorant of your good traits says something bad about you, remind yourself to look in your list of compliments and that night choose the one which comes closest to an “answer” for that person, and repeat it to yourself.
Some jerk says “You’re selfish.”
Go find that compliment where you said (truthfully) “You’d give something very precious to make a friend happy.”
Now you’ve got the medicine.
If anybody suggest that the world would be fine without you, just remember “I am unique. No one can replace me.”
It’s true about you because it’s true about EVERYONE!
As much as the trees and the stars, you have a right to be here.
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he’s your brother brothers are mean!
dont worry bout him
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well i am bi-polar too but i have it undercontroal and the thing with you is that , you should do what i do sometimes when things start to get out of hand try to close the comments out and think about the thing that have meaning to you or you can talk to your other brother and try to sort things out and also never lose faith in your talents and don’t ever stop loving yourself. you should always love yourself it will bring a new you to the surface and just ignore the comments about what everyone says you can’t do because with practice comes perfection