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I have a low self esteem which I want to work on improving. How do you block out the negative things people say about you.
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I have a low self esteem which I want to work on improving. How do you block out the negative things people say about you.
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When you hear or see someone putting you down just tell them “F**k you!” It’ll make you feel a lot better. Trust me. Try ignoring everybody else. If that doesn’t work get some outside help, like tell a teacher/parent/shrink..etc. My gf and I are always getting put down, especially by her parents and it’s hard. Just keep your chin up, as my grandma would say, and if someone still gives you sh*t…tell ‘em to “F**k off!”
You’re better than they are and they know that. Do you?
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inner strength
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Ignore it
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When someone says something negative to you, turn it around in a positive. Like if someone says,”Ooh, your shoes are so ugly.” Turn around and say, “That’s fine but they’re Coach and cost $200 more than yours.” Or you could say, “I didn’t buy them for you to like, that’s why they’re on my feet.” Be nice but smart at the same time. You don’t have to curse someone out for them to feel stupid. Think of it as they are looking for ways to build their self-esteem because of how insecure they are with themselves, that’s why they look for ways to put others down. Have a sense of pride within yourself, say that you’re beautiful and no one is the judge of that but yourself! Good Luck
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Unfortunately you can’t block them out completely. Here’s what I have found to be a great self-esteem builder. Find something you’re good at and practice, practice, practice until you’re the best. If you don’t think your good at much of anything, try something you’ve never tried before. Example:starting an art journal or learning a musical instrument. I’m telling you the truth……it works!
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It’s really hard…I’m 58 and still learning, but the important thing is to work on being inner directed rather than outer directed. That means that you are motivated by your own inner thoughts rather than by the thoughts and actions of others. You have to create your own truth about yourself, believe in it, and not accept what others say as “truth.” Good luck…keep telling yourself that you are a worthy person over and over until you believe it!
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Realize they are either jealous, or have control issues and feel the need to put down other to feel supireor. Look in the mirror and concentrate on the person that you know you are. you don’t need others to defind you, you know the person you are. Also consider counseling as an outlet for your feelings and a way to learn how to overcome being verbally and mentally abused
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You tune them out. If someone has the nerve to be so rude to you, just think of it this way: they are miserable and feel the need to take it out on other people. They think hurting other people will make them feel better or superior. Wrong. It’s good if you adopt the attitude that you are an awesome human being, there’s no one like you, and just because something is said…it’s just words. It’s their opinion, and not anyone elses. It should not matter
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Distance yourself from the negatives. Even if it hurts a little at first, you will find that it helps overall. Self esteem is a symptom of your surroundings, and if you change them, (slowly) you will find that your bad feelings for yourself decrease in severity, and eventually die!
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First off, try to have an internal focus rather than an external one.
You can also work on focusing on your good points and resources. Stephen Covey says in his book that we all have a “circle of influence,” and a “circle of concern.” Influence refers to what you have, what you can do, your resources, what you know, etc. Concern here refers to problems and challenges. Whichever circle you put your focus on is the one which grows.
Also try to create a positive mental environment for yourself.
For name-callers, particularly if they are the “hit and run” sort, I created a mental distancing exercise. You remind yourself that you are not the name being called and that you don’t have to answer. It is not your name, so why answer to it? If they call out [Expletive] then they are not talking to you, but some person named [Expletive].
I also used to listen to music and sing when walking outside. For some reason, that tended to keep the harassers away. Maybe it has something to do with some energy you give off when you are alone, and the act of listening to music or singing somehow altering that energy.
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You are more than likely a much nicer person than that. Right? You probably care a heck of a lot about others, which is why it bothers you when they say bad thinks about you.
Get away from people who do that.
If it’s totally impossible, can you set boundaries?
(like in, “I do not have to listen to this person?”)
Being put down is not nice.
But you may be in a position where you need to stop giving them so much power over you, by relying on what others say about you, to dictate who you really are.
You are a perfect child of God. You have wonderful and encouraging words to give to others. You can accomplish the impossible when you “really want to.” You have this very day to be nice to someone else. Even when they aren’t nice to you. Tell them, “I’m sorry you feel that way.” And move on, kiddo! You have much better things to do with the next 24 hours than listen to that nonsense. Find someone who needs an encouraging word. They are all over the place. Online, in grocery stores.
Give, and you will receive much more than you expected.
And then you will know, YOU ARE A GREAT PERSON!
God bless you this day.
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never accept a negative about yourself,if someone tries to consistantly put you down realize that they are making a point of trying to hide theirs…usually when someone is doing that it is because of their own inferiority
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All the above are good answers! Hang in there!
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Most people that are good at pushing your buttons are the same ones that installed them!
For example; one of my grandmothers had a knack for making me feel inadequate and a bit ugly just by saying “honey, you have such a beautiful face-you would look so good if you just lost a few pounds”.
I dont think it was her intention to make feel the way i did, it was my response.
So nowadays I just keep my responses in check, anybody tells me something that I have negative emotions about-its just their opinion,..and opinions are like buttholes—everyone has one and most of them smell!