Abhishek Agarwal


There are 2 major qualities that practically define a person and how far they will go in life. These traits are confidence and self-esteem. Someone who lacks these two qualities will often fail to succeed in life, and become what is called a “loser”. No one wants to be a loser, but they do exist in society today, just as they have existed for hundreds of years. People with low confidence and self-esteem often have problems holding down a job, have little ambition or drive, and are generally a drain upon society. Building a persons confidence and self-esteem starts when they are very young, with their parents and home life.

Helping Your Child Succeed - Confidence and Self-Esteem Building

Everyone has challenges. How a person deals with those challenges stems from how they learned to deal with problems when they were young. And learning to meet these challenges head-on, and build confidence and self-esteem, starts when a person is young. Here are some tips for parents to help build their child’s confidence and self-esteem.

1. Acknowledge the Good

There is nothing worse for a child’s confidence and self-esteem than coming home from school with their shiny “A” or completed school project, and having a parent display no enthusiasm or give no praise. If your child accomplishes something good, let them know! Frame that report card, or medal, or whatever. Show that it means something, both to you and your child, when they do something well. Not only will this build the child’s confidence and self-esteem, but looking at last semester’s report card and remembering the praise, or the dinner out, or however you rewarded your child, can give them the drive to do it again next semester.

2. Reinforce the Positive

A positive take on life on the parents part directly translates to their childrens’ outlooks. A parent who is pessimistic and acts beaten by life will instill those values as easily as a parent with sunny outlooks, even in the face of life challenges, instill that in their children. The way a child meets challenges has a direct impact on both their confidence and self-esteem.

A parent shouldn’t call out the negatives they see in everyone around them. They should be thankful that their child and life is sound and healthy, without giving the child the impression that they are “better” than a less fortunate child or family. A false sense of intrinsic worth based on the misfortune of others can lead to low confidence and self-esteem later in life.

If the parents have given their child a task to do, and they complete it well, praise them! A parent must be consistent, however, and be sure that you really mean it. Few things can hurt a child’s confidence and self-esteem like hearing their parent talking about how bad they performed a task to another person, after the same parent gave the child praise for a task well done. If a parent’s child is not performing as well as they should be, don’t criticize and be nasty about the child’s shortcomings. Rather, the parent try to explain how they could be doing better in specific areas, while still pointing out the things the child is doing well. All this leads to greater confidence, and thus, self-esteem.

3. Take an Active Role

A parent should always do their best to participate in their child’s life. Parents, go to after-school activities! Watch their performances! Cheer them on! A child who sees his parents don’t care about something will wonder both why he or she should care, and why his or her parents don’t care about them like the other kids parents do. This can be a major blow to a child’s confidence, self-esteem, and drive.

It all Comes Back to the Parents

If a parent gives their child the kind of attention and love discussed above, then their child will be successful. High confidence and self-esteem are absolutely vital in preparing a child for the future. Don’t condemn them to a life of mediocrity and therapy sessions, get involved, show support and love, and the rest will follow naturally.



Eugene

Tomas Labas


At some point in our lives, we experience lack of self confidence due to various reasons and causes. Maybe, we are not good in the class. Maybe, we are not the sporty type trapped in group of athletes. Or maybe, we consider ourselves incapable of achieving something that others might find pretty easy. These reasons build up that we end in the situation where we have no self confidence in either hand. Aside from this reason, low self confidence can also be rooted from race, gender, or physical appearance.

If you lack self-confidence, you might also have low self-esteem. And the root of these two is your outlook on yourself. Surely, if you see yourself as ugly, incapable, and different from others, your self-confidence and self-esteem are low. Most people who lack self-confidence tend to believe every negative comment others say about them. And they would not even bother to differentiate which are constructive and which are destructive. So make sure that the moment somebody gives you criticism, never just accept every word they say.

The point is, either we root our lack of self confidence from the past experiences or internal conflict, we need to take some actions. And so, here are the essential points on how you build your self confidence.

Take responsibility. It does not have to be taking over a group and become a leader. Taking small responsibility such as assuming chores will provide a good start on building self confidence. Once you have assumed and successfully executed small responsibilities, then you can take bigger ones. The idea is, start small and work your way from there.

Set goals. On every encounter you do, draw up your goal. Start small and focus on achieving this goal. Soon, you will find yourself setting more difficult goals. This will provide you self confidence.

Be positive. You will notice that when you think often of the negative things or the negative effects on each thing or task you do, you end up disregarding the positive side. And this would further give you low self confidence. What you should do is to think of the positive side. This might be an easy thing to do but it may be very hard if you get used to thinking negative things. FORCE yourself to think of the good side rather than the bad.

Start your day by facing the mirror and praising yourself. You might think this is embarrassing, but this technique is very effective. If you start your day happy, your task will fairly lighten. Why? Because you will have a positive outlook on the whole day. Seeing yourself as a beautiful being will certainly make everything beautiful in the process. And soon, you will walk on the street happy and contented.

Stand in the middle of the crowd. This does not mean you have to be the center of attention. It only means that you have to make some contacts and get the conversation going. You don’t just sit on a party and feel sorry for yourself because no one talks to you. Approach people. self confidence is build up with communicating well.

Avoid unnecessarily stress. Your aim is to build your self confidence and you cannot do that if your trap yourself in the situation wherein tasks surround you. What you should do is to avoid these by taking each task efficiently and one at a time. This will get the things done at the same time remove the burden and the thought that you cannot finish everything in time.

Provide help to others. Your aim is to feel good about yourself that would result to self confidence. If you offer your time on helping others, you will certainly feel good about yourself.

Take care of yourself. Live healthy, eat healthy and get plenty of rest. This will make you feel good on the inside and look good on the outside.



David

Arthur Wang


by © Arthur, The Motivation Home

How everyone wish they have more self confidence in themselves. With a little more self confidence, you can become a better person and see the world in a new perspective. For those who are born with it, self confidence becomes a natural process. Ideally, it would be to your advantage if your parents have developed your self confidence while you were young. If not, you still can developed it yourself as an adult. However, if you are currently a parent, it would be wise to help your kids develop their self confidence early as it will aid in their life achievement.

As you grow and progress in your life, your self confidence will either deteriorate or improve depending on the life events that is happening around you. Your self confidence is important to you because a lack of it can hold back the progress of your life. A person who is confidence truly love and believe in themselves. They have the courage to do what their heart and desire. The opinions and discouraging words from others have very little impact on them once they decide to purse their dreams and goals.

Many people with low self confidence often under achieved as they don’t believe in their own potential. The lack of self confidence can lead to a self perpetuating problem as people with low self confidence set less goals and are more likely to under performance. In the work place, they are unlikely to work to their full capacity as they lack the confidence to perform well. The less than stellar results will reinforce that you are mediocre and lousy worker. As a result, your self confidence suffers and in some cases lead to other self destructive behaviors such as eating disorders, shopping disorders or turning to drugs in some extreme cases.

People lacking in self confidence are also unlikely to enjoy fulfilling relationships with their partners, family members or friends. They don’t fill comfortable making new friends as they feel that others are always better than them. They tends to under estimate their self worth.

Developing your self confidence early is the best defense again those undesirable behavior. You should not wait to get started building your self confidence and esteem. Do it today, right now and don’t delay till tomorrow. Determine and list down your strong point. Focus and develop these strong areas first as it will let you fully believe in yourself and your skills. The more you see your accomplishment, the more you can see the aspect in your life that you are good in.

Building your self confidence is a progressive effort and you need to develop it gradually by testing and challenging yourself daily or regularly. As your self confidence improve, the more challenges you will conquer and the better you will feel about yourself.

Finally, you will developed into a person who have the self confidence to do whatever thing that you desire in life.