Improving Confidence With Accomplishment
Wednesday, October 15th, 2008
CD Mohatta
Our confidence comes partly from accomplishing things and recognizing those accomplishments. When we don’t stretch ourselves to grow and reach our goals, but instead ignore matters or want things done for us because we “can’t,” then we don’t gain this kind of confidence. Negative feelings can creep in because we feel we should be doing more or mistakenly think we can’t do much.
It isn’t enough just to accomplish things. That alone won’t make us feel confident. We have to recognize our accomplishments when we make them. If we think mostly about our failures and what we haven’t gotten done, we still won’t feel confident even if we have accomplished great things. If instead we feel proud about our accomplishments, share them with friends and family, and celebrate the larger ones, then it will help us to build better confidence.
When you try to accomplish and you don’t do everything you set out to do, do you recognize what you did get done or only that you failed to accomplish it all? Many of us feel disappointed in ourselves when we don’t do things perfectly or do everything, even when we have done wonderful things and made progress.
To help yourself have better confidence set goals for yourself regularly, set some goals that will require you to grow, and learn to acknowledge your progress and successes every day. To aid yourself in this, you might wish to keep a journal and write down in it the progress you make and the things you accomplish. You can also write on your calendar what you have gotten done or progress you have made with goals like losing weight, quitting smoking, or saving money.
Eliminate “can’t” from your vocabulary and replace it with asking yourself how you are going to do what you wish to do. Believe that there is a way to make progress with any goal you have. Use failures as lessons how to do things better, but don’t dwell on them. Just use them as an education. Failure only exists when you give up. Remember that any progress is progress.
Enjoy your accomplishments. Let yourself feel good about things you do and any progress or effort you make. You deserve it.
Our confidence comes partly from accomplishing things and recognizing those accomplishments. When we don’t stretch ourselves to grow and reach our goals, but instead ignore matters or want things done for us because we “can’t,” then we don’t gain this kind of confidence. Negative feelings can creep in because we feel we should be doing more or mistakenly think we can’t do much.
It isn’t enough just to accomplish things. That alone won’t make us feel confident. We have to recognize our accomplishments when we make them. If we think mostly about our failures and what we haven’t gotten done, we still won’t feel confident even if we have accomplished great things. If instead we feel proud about our accomplishments, share them with friends and family, and celebrate the larger ones, then it will help us to build better confidence.
When you try to accomplish and you don’t do everything you set out to do, do you recognize what you did get done or only that you failed to accomplish it all? Many of us feel disappointed in ourselves when we don’t do things perfectly or do everything, even when we have done wonderful things and made progress.
To help yourself have better confidence set goals for yourself regularly, set some goals that will require you to grow, and learn to acknowledge your progress and successes every day. To aid yourself in this, you might wish to keep a journal and write down in it the progress you make and the things you accomplish. You can also write on your calendar what you have gotten done or progress you have made with goals like losing weight, quitting smoking, or saving money.
Eliminate “can’t” from your vocabulary and replace it with asking yourself how you are going to do what you wish to do. Believe that there is a way to make progress with any goal you have. Use failures as lessons how to do things better, but don’t dwell on them. Just use them as an education. Failure only exists when you give up. Remember that any progress is progress.
Enjoy your accomplishments. Let yourself feel good about things you do and any progress or effort you make. You deserve it.