Matthew Hick It’s easy to blame the way we were raised, or the people around us for our lack of self esteem, but consider this: maybe you’re the culprit stealing your own self-esteem. Could you be unintentionally sabotaging your own self-esteem? Ask yourself these important questions:
Do I Value Myself?
Do you take the time to take care of yourself? Are you eating right? Exercising regularly? Going to the doctor when you need to? Or are you one of those people who don’t really believe you deserve to take a Saturday off once in awhile from cleaning the house and doing things for others to pamper yourself?
Do I Avoid Intimacy With Others?
When you don’t think you truly deserve to be happy or deserve to be loved, you have the tendency to back away from those around you and not allow yourself to truly connect on a deeper, more personal and intimidate level. Think about the things you and your friends talk about. Do you share the things that matter most in your life, or do you have the tendency to just gloss over your wants, need and personal dreams?
Do You Often Put Yourself Down?
Those around us are eager enough to put us down, there’s no need for us to down-talk ourselves. Are you harder on you than you are on others? Do you expect more from yourself than you do anyone else in your home or life? Even if you aren’t saying negative things about yourself out loud, are you thinking them?
Are You Staying So Busy You Don’t Have Time To Deal With Yourself?
Are you keeping yourself s busy with your job, your kids, church activities, volunteer opportunities and the like, that you have little or no time to rally look at yourself and the things you may be dealing with on a personal emotional level?
Do You Find It Difficult to Be Happy With Anything In Your Life?
Do you hate your job; want a bigger better house; wish your spouse would help out more? Wish your kids were better behaved? Covet your neighbor’s new car? Want a garden like the local gardening clubs? In short, do you find yourself dissatisfied with everything and everyone in your life – including yourself?
Do You Find Yourself Letting Your Appearance Go?
Are you suddenly willing to let yourself out of the house with little or no makeup, your hair in tangles and your clothes wrinkled because you think you don’t deserve to look good or no one will notice anyway because you’re always a mess anyway?
If you answered yes to one or more of the questions above, you may be struggling with a low self-esteem issue. Without better self esteem you may lack the ability t try new things; experience life to its fullest and have the confidence and power to take care of yourself and your family.
Now that you know you may have an issue, take the time to really look at the reasons why your self-esteem has taken a nosedive and do something about it!
Ricky
