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Self-Confidence – 3 Things You Can Do When You Have None

Posted by Janine on December 4th, 2009 | Comments Off

Suzanne Bird-Harris


Self-confidence is one of the keys to achieving success – you hear that everywhere. Most people think self-confidence is a result of success, but it’s actually an ingredient of success. How do you gain self-confidence so you can attract the success you seek?

1. Fake it!

Though it sounds ridiculous, faking confidence when you have none will actually give you some! Self-confidence is a perception held by you and others. If you act self-confident whether you feel it or not, others will perceive you as self-confident and be more willing to follow your lead, take you seriously and listen to what you have to say. It’s the great paradox where confidence is concerned, almost a “which comes first, the chicken or the egg” situation. Have a little faith in yourself and soon you won’t have to fake it anymore.

2. Take risks.

There’s no need to fake confidence if you live each day like the day before. All of that is known territory – you’ve been there, done that. The most direct route to self-confidence is to take calculated risks and examine your results. Will you make mistakes? Absolutely, but those mistakes contribute as much to growing your self-confidence as your victories, particularly if you resist the urge to use them to beat yourself up. No one gets it right every single time and to require that from yourself is self-sabotage at its best. Start with small steps outside of your comfort zone and build your confidence step by step.

3. Stop doubting yourself by default.

We all have that little voice of doubt inside our heads. The trick is to learn when to pay attention to it and when to ignore it. I am a firm believer in “following your gut” and I’ve had to learn the difference between intuition and self-doubt. For me, what works best is to listen to what that doubting voice is actually saying. If its message is mainly lack of belief in your ability or your deservedness, then ignore it and forge ahead. As you gain self-confidence, you’ll hear from that little voice of doubt less and less often.

The dictionary defines self-confidence as confidence in oneself and in one’s powers and abilities without any suggestion of conceit or arrogance. This is exactly what you gain when you fake it, take risks and stop letting doubt control your next move.



Cathy

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Low Self-Esteem – Understanding And Overcoming Low Self Esteem

Posted by Janine on July 19th, 2009 | Comments Off

Abhishek Agarwal


Self-esteem is the determining factor for your success in any endeavor in life. What you end up doing in life and how you perform all depend on your self-esteem. Self-esteem refers to what you think of yourself. If you have high self-esteem, that means you are sure of your abilities to complete any task successfully. A high self-esteem ensures your success to a great extent. On the other hand, there are some people who do not trust themselves. Such people are symptomatic of low self- esteem.

The signs of low self-esteem are difficult to notice in yourself. However, other people around you can quickly notice these signs. So, to be able to check yourself before you fall prey to self-esteem, let us give you some of the conditions that lead to low self-esteem.

You reach that stage where you think nothing of yourself. You stay quiet for the fear of being termed inadequate. You yourself feel that you are worth nothing and will not be able to complete any work given to you. Although there are times when you feel your life is capable of doing anything it attempts, yet you lose confidence in your abilities very quickly.

Low self-esteem deters you achieving anything in your life as it always holds you back. If you have low self-esteem, something you would otherwise do very easily would also become an arduous task. Thus, you will not be able to accomplish anything phenomenal. It is very important to root out this low self- esteem from your life so that you can really progress in life.

Low self-esteem is not something a person is born with. It is in fact the repercussion of the hardships one has faced in life. There are times when certain events take place in your life and they result in your losing confidence in yourself. Usually these events are such that they invoke some trauma and stay with you for life. So everytime you remember them, you lose your self-esteem a little and eventually end up with low self-esteem.

If at a time in your life you have been humiliated in front of many people or even an important decision gone wrong, which has caused you to forfeit something important or dear to you, you are likely to bear the effects of it all your life in the form of low self-esteem. When one is born, they neither have high self-esteem, nor a low one. It is the experiences one undergoes in life that determine this fact.

One big mistake people make is when they equate loss of self-esteem to something that is irreparable. However, it is not impossible to regain your self-esteem. You can transform the root cause of this low self-esteem into an impetus for your growth by changing that negative experience into a nice one.

You must change these bad memories into productive ones so that whenever you remember them or experience something similar, you are not left harassed by your negative feelings and the feeling of low self-confidence.

It is essential for your well-being, to protect your self-confidence. Even your children must be taught the ability to save their self-esteem. The confidence to face each and every day head-on must be inculcated in them. Otherwise, their low self-esteem will undermine them as a person and will forever hamper their growth.

You will never be able to display your fullest potential if you have low self-esteem. It is possible to overcome this feeling of low self-esteem and you should make an attempt towards it as quickly as possible. Otherwise, you will only be left wondering all your life, what all you could have done.



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Great Tips to Improve Your Self Confidence

Posted by Janine on May 6th, 2009 | Comments Off

Raymond


This article will illustrate on the great tips to improve your self confidence. The first things that we need to focus on is that self confidence are most effective to gain through ourselves, all we need to is believe and learn the techniques to do that.

Self confidence brings out the best of us to counter our fear, self confidence can be build in an individual as the positive thinking in a person increase over time, when it increased over time, our motivation and self esteem will also be increase along the way.

The first thing that should do is that we should be clear or our goals. What is the purpose for us to do an activity? We shall set a goal for whatever we plan to do, and then only we plan and try ourselves and challenge ourselves to achieve that target. It is important step because it will lead us to create another goal and reach another larger goal. This will help to build up self confidence.

We usually cope with fear in whatever things that we do. Fear is a kind of emotion feelings that will have great impact against our self confidence. We must try our best for not letting our fear be our obstacles for success. Meanwhile we should build up more positive thinking because positive thinking such as excitement can greatly improve your self confidence in ourselves for us to deal with any difficulties. We shall make this a great motivation step to control our feelings and do not let those negative feelings stop us for reaching our goals.

It is true that self confidence can be gain through ourselves, but sometimes we need some intensive guidance from successful people. We shall learn from them, treat them as our great mentor, and learn their success and confidence. This is essential because whenever we facing any difficulties, we will be continued to inspire and motivated by these successful persons. Hence, this will eventually greatly improve our self confidence.

Lastly, we receive great information to gain self confidence, even we went to as many as seminars or read as much as books about motivation, but it will not work because we have to take massive actions and make all that things that we learned happen. Remember the goals that we set, implement that particular goals every single day, day and night. Revise what went wrong and try to improve it.  This will help to improve your self confidence.



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Tips To Improve Confidence By Improving Self Esteem

Posted by Janine on February 27th, 2009 | Comments Off

John Edmond


Not many people take the time to actually think about the real meaning of self esteem even though they may think they know about it. It relates to specific parts of your personality and the way you project those parts creating your identity. It isn’t a alternative phrase for confidence despite what many people think. Attitudes make up the social context of your personality and to leave your mark on the world around you and be yourself require it.

The success of an individual often depends greatly on how they and others see them – their public persona. Those with high self esteem are often more motivated to achieve their goals and often go about it with a strong will. Often other individuals will be envious because it results in increased confidence.

If you find you are lacking contentment, satisfaction or energy in your life then this often means you are suffering from a low level of self esteem. Individuals often feel that they can’t succeed in life and have difficulty functioning as an independent individual. As a result of this mindset it can sometimes lead to depression and anxiety.

Many people in today’s world view mistakes as a shameful event rather than as a learning experience. You can build up your confidence if you regard your mistakes as a learning experience resulting in you becoming a more mature individual. To decide if your life is on the right path, or if you need to change course, is a consequence of analysing your mistakes. Consider your mistakes as a lesson that can teach you more about yourself rather than as an error.

To increase your levels you need to give yourself a purpose and to do this you should set goals to reach. Each goal should be something that motivates you and be something you have long wanted to accomplish. Once you reach your goals you will have a sense of accomplishment and this will help increase your self esteem.

In line with setting goals you should give yourself rewards when you achieve your goals. This way you can not only have personal satisfaction of achieving a goal, but you will also have something you can enjoy.

The fastest way to destroy your self esteem is through negative behavior or language. Always try to speak in positive language and use positive behavior. Show this positive attitude to the World even if you don’t feel it on the inside. In a real sense we are defined by our behaiour not our fears. If you act as though you believe in yourself your it will increase as a consequence.



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