Robert Kokoska
Ideally, self confidence is a personality trait that you should develop early and maintain throughout your life. For many of us, though, that just isn’t the case – as either the process of developing self confidence is stymied early on by several factors, or we lose confidence because of certain life events.
Nowadays, it is relatively rare to meet someone who is entirely satisfied with his or her selves level of confidence. Interestingly enough though, this can also be true of people who might seem (to the casual observer) to exude great confidence and self esteem – in fact, they can even appear brash or over-confident. Sometimes, this is just a front for the lack of confidence that individual is hiding in an attempt to impress other people.
Developing self confidence is an important skill for personal growth, because a lack of confidence can really hold you back in all areas of your life. First of all, it can manifest itself in a great variety of ways. Many people with poor self confidence and low self esteem tend to stay in unsatisfying careers and relationships because they don’t believe in themselves enough to think that they can do better or have the willpower to raise their standards.
Of course, this can often lead to a self perpetuating problem – if you aren’t happy with what you’re doing and where you are heading in life, you are very unlikely to be working to your full capacity or with enthusiasm. Then on top of that, less than stellar results from your work efforts will reinforce the idea that you are a just a mediocre or poor worker. Your self confidence will naturally suffer as a result. All of us deserve to know what it’s like to work at something we truly love in life and all of us deserve to feel like we can achieve anything we set our minds to.
Some of the more frequent activities that result in poor self confidence are addiction or other self destructive behaviors, such as eating disorders. Most eating disorders, such as anorexia or bulimia, result from a feeling that you are somehow inadequate and that you need to be perfect in order to accept yourself or be accepted. As a result, some young women (who are particularly susceptible to this type of problem) have literally starved themselves to death. Developing self confidence early on is probably the best defense against developing addictions, eating disorders and other problems with self image later on.
Finally, if you have poor self confidence, you are unlikely to be enjoying fulfilling relationships with friends, partners or family. One thing that may happen is that you will end up projecting your negative self-worth onto someone else, often a child. On the other hand, you might also be willing to put up with abusive behavior if your self confidence is poor. All in all, developing self confidence is a way to avoid a whole range of debilitating problems.
Ideally, self confidence is a personality trait that you should develop early and maintain throughout your life. For many of us, though, that just isn’t the case – as either the process of developing self confidence is stymied early on by several factors, or we lose confidence because of certain life events.
Nowadays, it is relatively rare to meet someone who is entirely satisfied with his or her selves level of confidence. Interestingly enough though, this can also be true of people who might seem (to the casual observer) to exude great confidence and self esteem – in fact, they can even appear brash or over-confident. Sometimes, this is just a front for the lack of confidence that individual is hiding in an attempt to impress other people.
Developing self confidence is an important skill for personal growth, because a lack of confidence can really hold you back in all areas of your life. First of all, it can manifest itself in a great variety of ways. Many people with poor self confidence and low self esteem tend to stay in unsatisfying careers and relationships because they don’t believe in themselves enough to think that they can do better or have the willpower to raise their standards.
Of course, this can often lead to a self perpetuating problem – if you aren’t happy with what you’re doing and where you are heading in life, you are very unlikely to be working to your full capacity or with enthusiasm. Then on top of that, less than stellar results from your work efforts will reinforce the idea that you are a just a mediocre or poor worker. Your self confidence will naturally suffer as a result. All of us deserve to know what it’s like to work at something we truly love in life and all of us deserve to feel like we can achieve anything we set our minds to.
Some of the more frequent activities that result in poor self confidence are addiction or other self destructive behaviors, such as eating disorders. Most eating disorders, such as anorexia or bulimia, result from a feeling that you are somehow inadequate and that you need to be perfect in order to accept yourself or be accepted. As a result, some young women (who are particularly susceptible to this type of problem) have literally starved themselves to death. Developing self confidence early on is probably the best defense against developing addictions, eating disorders and other problems with self image later on.
Finally, if you have poor self confidence, you are unlikely to be enjoying fulfilling relationships with friends, partners or family. One thing that may happen is that you will end up projecting your negative self-worth onto someone else, often a child. On the other hand, you might also be willing to put up with abusive behavior if your self confidence is poor. All in all, developing self confidence is a way to avoid a whole range of debilitating problems.
