Muna wa Wanjiru


Self-esteem is essential for the positive approaches towards the ways and means of facing the problems. Self-esteem is a road for smooth approaches towards the ways of seeing at things. Self-esteem develops a confidence in an individual; it helps him to stop worrying about the problems and helps the individual to face it with laudable courage. An individual becomes aware of his/her responsibilities and he sets goals and tries his best to achieve his/her objectives laid…

What is low self-esteem?

Cultivating negativity or arising of negative thoughts leads to low self-esteem. Low self-esteem may arise of constant tensions, workloads, enmity etc. low self-esteem results in loosing confidence. One cannot face the problems as efficiently as he/she is used to. Low self-esteem results in unhappiness, loosing of motivation, loosing of self-confidence. It also affects the routine as well as the relations of an individual. The person starts loosing interest in things happening around he/she prefer to be lonely as not option to mix up in the group.

How frequently does Low self-esteem may occur?

Low self-esteem occurs very frequently. It is very difficult to predict as when it will occur. However, mostly it occurs in stressed out conditions.

What does a person experience during Low self-esteem?

An individual experiences the following things during Low self-esteem: -

1. An individual gets hurt very easily even a single remark is passed against him/her.

2. He/she feels very shy to go in public.

3. An individual is unable to share his thoughts as well as feelings with others.

4. He/she prefer to be alone.

5. An individual gets irritated on very small things.

6. He/she tends to dislike of what they are and blame their selves

7. The individual tires to avoid new experiences.

8. He/she may develop sick feelings towards others

9. He/she is most of the times depressed.

10. The person gets sacred of fears very easily.

11. The individual may even feel of harming them selves.

12. The individual is very afraid that the might be ditched if he/she is in a relationship

13. The person feels as if he/she is a big looser

14. The individual is scared of handling things and is very sacred to give any interviews or exams.

Therefore, it is very essential that one should not posses a low self-esteem. It is very important to have a strong and a positive self-esteem.



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Bill Bartmann


Self esteem is your opinion of your self. A high self esteem is a good opinion; a low self esteem is a bad opinion. You self esteem can be affected by several aspects of your life.

• Your Job: Do you feel your job is important? Do others respect what you do? Do you?

• Success: Do you think you are successful

• Self-image: How do you see yourself?

• Strentghs & Weaknesses: How do feel about your strengths and weaknesses?

• Social Status: What do you think of your social status? How do others relate to you? How do you relate to others?

• Decisions: Can you make your own decisions? Do you feel good about your choices?

Low Self-Esteem

Low self esteem comes from a poor self-image. How you see yourself is your self image. Do you see yourself as being a good person? Are you reliable, hardworking, honest and trustworthy? Are you a good friend?

How do you feel about your job? Do you like your job? Do you value your work and does it give you satisfaction?

Low self esteem is fed by negative thinking which causes you to lose confidence in yourself. It is vital that you put a stop to negative thinking and don’t believe all the negative things other say.

High Self-Esteem

High self esteem is the complete opposite. If you have high self esteem, you have a good self-image. You’re a happy, confident person with high motivation and the right attitude to succeed in meeting your goals.  

With a high self esteem, you are able to admit to your mistakes without feeling that you have failed. You meet challenges head-on and improve where necessary.

Your self esteem affects how you think, act and relate to others. It affects you potential to succeed and to feel satisfied with yourself and your accomplishments. It affects you happiness and well-being.

Measuring Your Self Esteem

How high is your self esteem? Below are ten points about self-image. Read each point and answer True or False to each one as it relates to how you see yourself. The more you can answer as being 100% true, the higher your self esteem is.

• I accept myself as I am; I am happy with myself

• I feel valued and needed; I deserve love and respect

• I enjoy socializing; I make friends easily

• I can openly admit my mistakes and have no problem accepting criticism

• I don’t hide my feelings; I speak up for myself, my views and my opinions

• I don’t worry about what others think; don’t need their approval to feel good

• I’m a happy person

• I can express myself without feeling guilty

• I don’t feel others are more fortunate than me

• I have nothing to hide; I can be myself

The better your self-image; the higher your self-esteem, the better you are able to cope with the ups and downs of life. Everyone has times where they feel low; you may even have moments of feeling hopeless and depressed. Your self image affects the way you cope with the down times and your ability to bounce back.

Bill Bartmann has had his share of ups and downs in his life; he has felt depressed, hopeless, like he has failed. He wouldn’t be human if he never experienced these feelings. The difference with Bill Bartmann was that he was able to redirect his thinking, lose the negative attitude and bounce back. Read Bill Bartmann’s Story and learn more about coping and bouncing back when things go wrong http://activerain.com/blogs/billbartmann