Abhishek Agarwal
This write is for those people who do not have enough confidence in themselves and have generally a low esteem of themselves. For others, this can be a useful guide to check their own personality and see whether they are overestimating themselves. In that case, a balance needs be struck for overestimation also alienates people as much as those who have low self esteem.
The basic cause for low self esteem is generally because the people who have it are either shy, or introvert, and keep to themselves. This by itself is not a bad thing, but when it comes to interaction with others – and that is unavoidable – it matters a great deal.
Low esteem people generally come from a background where there are problems at home, or sibling rivalry, or for some other reasons. But it is not as if they can’t change themselves. They can. All it requires is a little effort at examining their own selves, and if they are lucky, they can be guided by a mentor, who can help in removing these ‘ridges’ in their external face to the world at large.
Low esteem people generally compare themselves with others who are quite the opposite of their own character. They admire people who are outgoing, are confident of themselves,and have generally good fund at work, and leisure. They have the ability to make other people laugh, and are greeted cheerfully when they appear on the scene.
Changing low esteem requires some, no, great effort. One of the first things that a person with low self esteem has to do is to take help; that help can be provided not so much by family members, but rather by a trained professional who could be a psychologist, or even a close friend. Recognising low self esteem is the biggest hurdle. Some people have the luck where they find a mentor, who observes the low self esteem person, and tries to change that behavior by lending a helping hand, without being overt about.
What causes low esteem is a complex mix of various factors. An hurting incident early in life, a traumatic experience in later years, or a problem in family ties, and sibling jealousy often make mouses of an superbly intelligent person.
To get out of this kind of situation, professional help, accompanied by mentoring help, often transforms that kind of person into a more healthy and refreshing lifestyle. If the low esteem person recognises that it is low esteem that is a cause, then, the best way would be to put in writing what causes that low esteem, and how it can be overcome. It is a very very difficult task, and a mentor is necessarily required to help that person in the early stages of transformation.
How then does one find a mentor? Unless the person talks to someone about the problem, or the mentor themselves diagnose that problem, it can be a dead end situation. Stage fright is one such example where even an outgoing personality would suddenly become a low esteem person. Low esteem persons are people who are seeking approval of their peers, without regard to their own ability, and are dependent on other people’s opinion of themselves.
They have first to learn that other people’s opinion may vary according to that person’s own personality. An aggressive personality would naturally torture or even people with low esteem. The person with low esteem would only look at negative features, and never at their positive features. They have to be taught to draw up a balance sheet of their perceived negatives and positives. They have to be coached to be themselves, and not mould their personality according to the likes of dislikes of other people. Standing up for themselves is the fist that breaks that low esteem.
Second, they have to practice this regularly and religiously. They must adopt a more positive insight about themselves, their good features and good attributes. A balance sheet if drawn up by them would contain more negatives than positives. They are therefore advised to seek professional help.Most often these people suffer from various neurotic diseases which a physician has to diagnose as not having to do anything with their physical ailments but rather their mental outlook. An otherwise healthy person develops acidity, has frequent headaches, symptoms of depression are some indicators of a low esteem person.
Therefore, it is best if either the low esteem person attends personality development classes, is forced to meet other people squarely, and not shy away from company or parties. Of course, help from a professional personality developer is a must. Low esteem people require a great deal of time before they really open up to their reality, so persistence and patience is required.
Donald
This write is for those people who do not have enough confidence in themselves and have generally a low esteem of themselves. For others, this can be a useful guide to check their own personality and see whether they are overestimating themselves. In that case, a balance needs be struck for overestimation also alienates people as much as those who have low self esteem.
The basic cause for low self esteem is generally because the people who have it are either shy, or introvert, and keep to themselves. This by itself is not a bad thing, but when it comes to interaction with others – and that is unavoidable – it matters a great deal.
Low esteem people generally come from a background where there are problems at home, or sibling rivalry, or for some other reasons. But it is not as if they can’t change themselves. They can. All it requires is a little effort at examining their own selves, and if they are lucky, they can be guided by a mentor, who can help in removing these ‘ridges’ in their external face to the world at large.
Low esteem people generally compare themselves with others who are quite the opposite of their own character. They admire people who are outgoing, are confident of themselves,and have generally good fund at work, and leisure. They have the ability to make other people laugh, and are greeted cheerfully when they appear on the scene.
Changing low esteem requires some, no, great effort. One of the first things that a person with low self esteem has to do is to take help; that help can be provided not so much by family members, but rather by a trained professional who could be a psychologist, or even a close friend. Recognising low self esteem is the biggest hurdle. Some people have the luck where they find a mentor, who observes the low self esteem person, and tries to change that behavior by lending a helping hand, without being overt about.
What causes low esteem is a complex mix of various factors. An hurting incident early in life, a traumatic experience in later years, or a problem in family ties, and sibling jealousy often make mouses of an superbly intelligent person.
To get out of this kind of situation, professional help, accompanied by mentoring help, often transforms that kind of person into a more healthy and refreshing lifestyle. If the low esteem person recognises that it is low esteem that is a cause, then, the best way would be to put in writing what causes that low esteem, and how it can be overcome. It is a very very difficult task, and a mentor is necessarily required to help that person in the early stages of transformation.
How then does one find a mentor? Unless the person talks to someone about the problem, or the mentor themselves diagnose that problem, it can be a dead end situation. Stage fright is one such example where even an outgoing personality would suddenly become a low esteem person. Low esteem persons are people who are seeking approval of their peers, without regard to their own ability, and are dependent on other people’s opinion of themselves.
They have first to learn that other people’s opinion may vary according to that person’s own personality. An aggressive personality would naturally torture or even people with low esteem. The person with low esteem would only look at negative features, and never at their positive features. They have to be taught to draw up a balance sheet of their perceived negatives and positives. They have to be coached to be themselves, and not mould their personality according to the likes of dislikes of other people. Standing up for themselves is the fist that breaks that low esteem.
Second, they have to practice this regularly and religiously. They must adopt a more positive insight about themselves, their good features and good attributes. A balance sheet if drawn up by them would contain more negatives than positives. They are therefore advised to seek professional help.Most often these people suffer from various neurotic diseases which a physician has to diagnose as not having to do anything with their physical ailments but rather their mental outlook. An otherwise healthy person develops acidity, has frequent headaches, symptoms of depression are some indicators of a low esteem person.
Therefore, it is best if either the low esteem person attends personality development classes, is forced to meet other people squarely, and not shy away from company or parties. Of course, help from a professional personality developer is a must. Low esteem people require a great deal of time before they really open up to their reality, so persistence and patience is required.
Donald
