Self Esteem

Carmen Bodden


I believe that everything that happens to us each day happens for some reason or another, and we should make the best of these situations. Rather than shutting your-self away in fear, worrying and crying about past hurts, embarrassment and failures, and getting depressed, use the experiences as your guides and lessons. Use them to improve yourself and build your self-esteem.

No one is going to force the idea to build your self-esteem, and it is not a rule. You may wonder if some people are born leaders or positive thinkers. However, they made the decision to be positive, and they choose to stay positive. The choice to build your self- esteem that will ultimately help you to improve your self, is a choice you must make.

This article provides some tips that will help you improve yourself by building your self-esteem. The tips will help you to be aware of the things and people that may be lowering your self-esteem. You will learn to maintain your self-esteem when things may not be going the way you expect.

Just imagine that you are a needle-cushion and everything and everyone else around you are needles. At some stage in your life, you will get these needles striking or pricking you. They will destroy your self-esteem and pull you down in ways that you would not even imagine or remember. However, you must not let them destroy you, or get the best of you. You should take care to avoid these needles, or when you are exposed to them, you should not allow them to torment or damage your self-esteem.

A Changing Environment

One of the hardest things for most people is learning to accept change. You cannot place a square pan in a round hole and expect it to fit. Changes cause us to make paradigm shifts, test our flexibility and adaptability, and alter the way we think. Changes can make things hard for us for a while. It may make our lives stressful, but it will help us find ways to improve our selves. We will always face many changes throughout our lives. However, we can and must learn to accept them and be subject to them in order to maintain our self-esteem.

Negative Genetics and Upbringing Traits

It is believed that your personality and your behavioral traits is an end product of the traits you inherited, the way you were raised up, and your environmental surroundings that may include your spouse, workplace, or close friends. However, you must know that you have your own identity. You are a unique person and do not have to be like any one else. If your mother was a failure, this does not mean that you must be a failure. You can use the experiences of your mother or other significant person in your life. Learn from that person, so that you will not have to make the same mistakes he or she made.

Negative Behaviors of Others

Some people thrive on negativity. However, they should know that, this keeps them in a prison of low self-esteem. Not only does this affect them, but you will also become affected with negativity if you keep company with them for any length of time. These kinds of people include the bulldozers, gossipmongers, whiners, backstabbers, snipers, controllers, naggers, and complainers. Their negativity can rub off on you and cause your self-esteem to lower and thus jeopardize your self-improvement.

Negative Work Place

You must be aware that some people will do whatever it takes to reach the top of the ladder, and you will find many people fighting just to get ahead. Even if you are one of the persons, who are reliable, punctual and do more than your fair share, it is most likely that you will not be recognized. An organization where people are fighting to reach the top is a place where you may not be appreciated, and no one will notice any of your achievements. You should try to stay out of this environment because it can damage your self-esteem. In most work places, competition is at stake, but you must be a healthy competitor in a healthy competitive environment.

Negative News

People tend to spend too much time listening or reading the news of the day, most of which is bad news. Be careful of the things that you watch. Do not get caught up in the negative aspects of the daily worldviews. When attempting to build self-esteem, we must learn how to make the best out of a bad situation.

It is difficult sometimes to stay tough especially when things and people around you keep pulling you down. What you must remember is to take up the right tools and experience to use. Select those that will stand the test and defeat the negativities. We are provided with many options, and as we travel along the way, we will be stuck by many needles. However, it is up to us the way that we respond to the pain and bruises that we encounter. Thicken the inner parts of the cushion, so that you will experience a change in yourself. You can change your attitude, behavior, and the way you think when you change your inner self.

Building self-esteem makes us responsible for who we are, what we achieve, and what we do. When we are building self-esteem, it will eventually lead to self-improvement. It is like a flame that gradually spreads like a brush fire from the inside and out. When we develop self-esteem, it allows us to be in control of our goals, values, and discipline.

Self-esteem brings about self-improvement, true self-assessment, and purpose. You can begin to build your self-esteem by being positive, contented, happy, and peaceful. Be appreciative of others and never miss an opportunity to make a compliment. Show gratitude. You can improve your self by building your self-esteem when you live in a positive way.