Robert Kokoska
Many of us know that we would benefit greatly from increased sense of self confidence; after all, a lack of it is often easy enough to identify! If you are lacking self-confidence, you are much more likely to let people treat you badly or take advantage of you. You might also have a tendency to fall short of your real potential at work or school, or even in your interpersonal relationships. If any of these above descriptions sound like you, chances are, you need to work on your self-confidence a little. But actually building self-confidence can be a long and tough road – and it isn’t as simple as it might sound. However, here are some useful tips for building self-confidence to get you on your way and on the right track.
First, the big key to personal self confidence is to trully love yourself, and this can be really difficult if you weren’t raised with a sense of unconditional love or support. That doesn’t mean that your parents didn’t love you – but some may have had trouble showing or expressing it, or they may have been so anxious for you to grow up ‘right’ that some disapproving messages were sent out instead. As children, we pick these things up unconsciously, and grow to beleive them. When beginning to build on your self-confidence, it will be a time to let go of self-critical thinking and beliefs. Wherever you are at the moment is a fine starting point. There is no need to criticise or berate yourself for what you percieve as your deficiencies so always to try catch yourself out thinking negatively and transfrom the thought into a positive one.
Second, try to identify what you are really good at and enjoy, and perfect that skill. The better you are at what you do, and the more positive feedback you recieve, the higher your self-confidence will be. Confidence grows out of achievement and success. Many of us have the common perception that we don’t enjoy working hard – this usually isn’t the case if the work you are doing is right for you and you enjoy it. Once that happpens, you will likely feel confident, skilled and become more productive.
Finally, another great way of building your self-confidence is to occasionally challenge yourself, maybe even doing things that scare you a little now and then. Start small – by doing something you haven’t done before, but that doesn’t take you too far out of your personal comfort zone. Then, build on that. As you start taking more chances and becoming more adventurous, your sense of self will begin to expand. If you really enjoy life and the work you are currently doing, building self-confidence should be a natural by-product. It becomes something that evolves on its own rather than something you work on, and the rewards will be great in all aspects of your life!
Cathy
Many of us know that we would benefit greatly from increased sense of self confidence; after all, a lack of it is often easy enough to identify! If you are lacking self-confidence, you are much more likely to let people treat you badly or take advantage of you. You might also have a tendency to fall short of your real potential at work or school, or even in your interpersonal relationships. If any of these above descriptions sound like you, chances are, you need to work on your self-confidence a little. But actually building self-confidence can be a long and tough road – and it isn’t as simple as it might sound. However, here are some useful tips for building self-confidence to get you on your way and on the right track.
First, the big key to personal self confidence is to trully love yourself, and this can be really difficult if you weren’t raised with a sense of unconditional love or support. That doesn’t mean that your parents didn’t love you – but some may have had trouble showing or expressing it, or they may have been so anxious for you to grow up ‘right’ that some disapproving messages were sent out instead. As children, we pick these things up unconsciously, and grow to beleive them. When beginning to build on your self-confidence, it will be a time to let go of self-critical thinking and beliefs. Wherever you are at the moment is a fine starting point. There is no need to criticise or berate yourself for what you percieve as your deficiencies so always to try catch yourself out thinking negatively and transfrom the thought into a positive one.
Second, try to identify what you are really good at and enjoy, and perfect that skill. The better you are at what you do, and the more positive feedback you recieve, the higher your self-confidence will be. Confidence grows out of achievement and success. Many of us have the common perception that we don’t enjoy working hard – this usually isn’t the case if the work you are doing is right for you and you enjoy it. Once that happpens, you will likely feel confident, skilled and become more productive.
Finally, another great way of building your self-confidence is to occasionally challenge yourself, maybe even doing things that scare you a little now and then. Start small – by doing something you haven’t done before, but that doesn’t take you too far out of your personal comfort zone. Then, build on that. As you start taking more chances and becoming more adventurous, your sense of self will begin to expand. If you really enjoy life and the work you are currently doing, building self-confidence should be a natural by-product. It becomes something that evolves on its own rather than something you work on, and the rewards will be great in all aspects of your life!
Cathy
