G.A.S.C.
If you are like every parent out there, you constantly worry about your children every day. When they are babies, you worry they are going to fall and get hurt. When they start school, are they going fit in, are they going to make friends, are they going to like school? They get to the age of 9 or 10 now you worry if they are fitting at school. They become a teenager and now the real worries start with them going out with friends, on a date and more. Drugs and alcohol are everywhere and you hope you did a good job raising them and they will make the right decision. One are that we don’t seem to worry about until a major situation arise before we worry about it is our teenagers suffering of Low Self Esteem.
As parents, we are so busy working 40-50 hours a week sometimes more that we don’t always see the signs. Low self esteem among teenagers is huge and very troubling. Here’s a few statistics that alarmed me extremely.
Girls with low self esteem are more likely to have sex at a young age. 50% of girls interviewed said they had sex by the time in they were in 9th grade some even earlier. The good stat is that 75% of girls of aged 9 say they like the way they look. That number drastically goes down to 56% by the age of 12 and 13. BY the age of nine, 50% of girls say they have been on a diet or are on a diet. Do you know that 7 million girls and women have an eating disorder and that 20% of women are bulimic in America? 33% of girls age 9-12 think they are overweight and that 60% of those same girls are on a diet. 57% of girls are fasting, on a diet or are smoking in order to lose weight. What is the result? Well, 50%-70% of girls with normal weight think they are overweight. They are also many other statistics on girls and teenagers who are suffering of low self esteem using drugs and alcohol.
As a parent, for me this is very alarming. These are real issues that we have to address but what can we do? What kind of help is there for overcoming low self esteem? The number one thing we can do is to make sure they know we love them and we provide them with affection. If they know we love them, then they will trust us and will be more likely to talk to us when a difficult situation in their like arise. As part of raising your children, you must instill 2 traits in your children. Make sure your children have people skills. People skills are not thought in school. They make sure your children know how to count, read and write. Look around you, may be your friends, people at work, who appear to be more successful in their life. Successful can be at work or their marriage. Is it Joe, in the corner who does not talk to anyone or Mary who can start a conversation with anyone at anytime. Is Brandi at work who always eats alone or Frank who is always helping and praising others? The answer is always the more outgoing person who is friendly and nice to everyone. By the way, when I say outgoing, I don’t mean the person next to you at work that just can’t shut up. I mean the person that can have conversation with anyone, that person.
The second item is character. Help your son or daughter build their character. Make them make the hard choices. Don’t let them get away with the occasional lying or unacceptable behavior. Make them understand in a positive way that there are consequences for not behaving correctly in today’s society and they will result in some sort of negative ways for them. Hold them accountable just like you think the society will hold them accountable so they are ready when they become an adult.
I would like to tell you it is easy but the reality is that if it was easy, they would not be 7 million girls out there suffering of low self esteem. Overcoming your girl teenager low self esteem is a very serious concern that all parents should have. Look for the low self esteem signs and address it. Do not ignore it, it will most likely not go away unless they get the help they need. There are some resources you can get that will help you deal with overcoming your teenager low self esteem.
To see some of those resources, visit http://www.squidoo.com/overcoming-low-self-esteem-tips
Tina
If you are like every parent out there, you constantly worry about your children every day. When they are babies, you worry they are going to fall and get hurt. When they start school, are they going fit in, are they going to make friends, are they going to like school? They get to the age of 9 or 10 now you worry if they are fitting at school. They become a teenager and now the real worries start with them going out with friends, on a date and more. Drugs and alcohol are everywhere and you hope you did a good job raising them and they will make the right decision. One are that we don’t seem to worry about until a major situation arise before we worry about it is our teenagers suffering of Low Self Esteem.
As parents, we are so busy working 40-50 hours a week sometimes more that we don’t always see the signs. Low self esteem among teenagers is huge and very troubling. Here’s a few statistics that alarmed me extremely.
Girls with low self esteem are more likely to have sex at a young age. 50% of girls interviewed said they had sex by the time in they were in 9th grade some even earlier. The good stat is that 75% of girls of aged 9 say they like the way they look. That number drastically goes down to 56% by the age of 12 and 13. BY the age of nine, 50% of girls say they have been on a diet or are on a diet. Do you know that 7 million girls and women have an eating disorder and that 20% of women are bulimic in America? 33% of girls age 9-12 think they are overweight and that 60% of those same girls are on a diet. 57% of girls are fasting, on a diet or are smoking in order to lose weight. What is the result? Well, 50%-70% of girls with normal weight think they are overweight. They are also many other statistics on girls and teenagers who are suffering of low self esteem using drugs and alcohol.
As a parent, for me this is very alarming. These are real issues that we have to address but what can we do? What kind of help is there for overcoming low self esteem? The number one thing we can do is to make sure they know we love them and we provide them with affection. If they know we love them, then they will trust us and will be more likely to talk to us when a difficult situation in their like arise. As part of raising your children, you must instill 2 traits in your children. Make sure your children have people skills. People skills are not thought in school. They make sure your children know how to count, read and write. Look around you, may be your friends, people at work, who appear to be more successful in their life. Successful can be at work or their marriage. Is it Joe, in the corner who does not talk to anyone or Mary who can start a conversation with anyone at anytime. Is Brandi at work who always eats alone or Frank who is always helping and praising others? The answer is always the more outgoing person who is friendly and nice to everyone. By the way, when I say outgoing, I don’t mean the person next to you at work that just can’t shut up. I mean the person that can have conversation with anyone, that person.
The second item is character. Help your son or daughter build their character. Make them make the hard choices. Don’t let them get away with the occasional lying or unacceptable behavior. Make them understand in a positive way that there are consequences for not behaving correctly in today’s society and they will result in some sort of negative ways for them. Hold them accountable just like you think the society will hold them accountable so they are ready when they become an adult.
I would like to tell you it is easy but the reality is that if it was easy, they would not be 7 million girls out there suffering of low self esteem. Overcoming your girl teenager low self esteem is a very serious concern that all parents should have. Look for the low self esteem signs and address it. Do not ignore it, it will most likely not go away unless they get the help they need. There are some resources you can get that will help you deal with overcoming your teenager low self esteem.
To see some of those resources, visit http://www.squidoo.com/overcoming-low-self-esteem-tips
Tina