Everyone says to women – If you want a great catch Date a nice Guy – and, while this certainly sounds right, the question remains. How do you know where to find one? How do you verify that he is, indeed, a nice guy? How do you land him? These are not new questions; they were asked by your mothers. There does appear to be increased urgency in finding the answers to these questions. We hear a lot of complaints from women that this is the old needle in the haystack scenario, that most guy are not worth a second look. This can certainly be said about women too.
So, what does a woman strategize against in spite of how difficult it might be? How does she go about making one more try at this? The answers will not surprise you a great deal when you hear them. Nice Guy guidelines for women are detailed below. If you are contemplating an attempt to get ex back from a breakup, how he rates on this scale may aid you in your decision.
You rarely find nice guys in saloons or clubs. Nice guys can still be found in the same locations as the ones your mother visited. Nice guy search venues are still the same ones: Churches, Libraries, Softball Leagues, Volunteer Groups, and Gymnasiums. Locations like these are choked with quality people – of both genders.
When you locate a potential nice guy, how do you proceed? Once you have found a nice guy – what then? The next step which has normally been recommended is to make contact and search for common interests. We believe, however, that a first step should be added that precedes the obvious one of contact. This is a potential-nice-guy screen that you should filter all candidates with. It is just a way to determine if he could possibly fit in this category.
This nice guy screen scans his dress, speech, mannerisms, habits and lifestyle. His appearance – while not necessarily branding him as blue versus white collar – will definitely label him as caring or not about his appearance.
When you hear him speak you should hear a well educated, warm and quietly confident man rather than a loud, coarse and profane one. After those initial tests, find out how he feels about women in general and what kind of relationship he has with his mother.
If he passes this screen, make contact and attempt to get to know him. The steps following this are all yours to take. Your second level screening needs to include serious assessment of his career goals, lifestyle, education, drug use, diet and exercise, and family interests. These things, taken together with your initial screen results will tell you if you are getting to know a man worth knowing – a “Nice Guy”.
A thorough understanding of these concepts might, indeed, help to decide if you want to get ex back. If you are trying to recover a broken relationship, your dedication to win your ex back, will be heightened by knowing how he ranks on the ‘nice guy’ scale.
